Males, how important is a female’s intelligence to you?

[Viriatus91]

When I was younger I dated a few intellectual girls including in college and they were really annoying and bitchy for no reason whatsoever. Just the worst. Years later I meet a young Czech girl who is 23, and I'm 30. I had just gotten out of a relationship and not looking for one, she was cute but didn't speak much English, but was amazing looking and fun. She wouldn't leave me alone and I dated her as a rebound, was a shitty boyfriend and we finally ended it four months later. She wasn't intellectual at all, but sweet and an amazing cook. I just did not value her, because I liked the chase. I always wanted the hard to get girls, that usually had sharp wits and sharp tongues to match. My friends, however all liked her, unlike my spoiled ex that they said was a 7 at best and they couldn't understand why I wasn't over her.

Fast forward 6 months and we meet again, we run into each other and start hanging out again. This time I'm over my ex and I start having feelings for her. Within a short time I realize I had fallen in love with this girl that I was not a good boyfriend to and we end up going to her country and had an amazing time. I take her to Portugal and the same, I propose there and by the age of 32 I am married.

So this girl that I thought wasn't bright because she was not an intellectual I can honestly say is the love of my life. She loves to cook, clean, garden, take care of our two kids and the dogs. I help her out, but she still goes above and beyond, treating me like a king and I feel like she puts so much effort into making herself look good, that she makes me want to do the same for her. We rarely argue or fight, and we give each other space to follow our interests. I am much more of the "intellectual", and she seems to admire that. She looks at me with real admiration sometimes and says to her friends "he is so smart". Years ago this would have been a turnoff, but now I can't imagine my life without her and baby no #3 will be here early next year.

[ChocolateFace]

Ideal situation would be a husband being slightly more intelligent than his wife.

This way he can be one step ahead always but at the same time if his wife is significantly below him intelligence wise it will make his life much more difficult.

Maybe this is why it was customary in almost all cultures for men to marry younger women this way they can be a step ahead.

[Arsen_]

I never had any preliminary preferences and I could not say in advance whether it is important for me or not the female's intelligence, but as a matter of fact, I can say that I often fell in love with very dumb women, and I even came to the conclusion that for me the dumber the girl the better.

For example one of the girls whom I loved most of all in my life was incredibly unbelievably fantastically dumb, you can't even imagine the level of her dumbness, in addition she suffered from epi syndrome, had suicidal tendencies, was drag-addicted and extremely sociopathic, she really spent some time in a mental hospital, and nevertheless I loved her and would not exchange her for a thousand intelligent girls.

Actually I never fell in love with a woman unless she was a psychopath to some extent. And my intuition and instincts never deceived me. Out of thousands of women, I always with some unmistakable inner instinct, found exactly the one who was an abnormal psychopath. And this choice of mine has always been an accurate diagnosis: if I liked the woman, no matter how normal she looked and seemed at first, very soon she appeared as an obvious psychopath.

[Arsen_]

But I must also add, and this is the funniest thing, that each of women whom I loved the most, in their turn, were sure and thought that from us two the only psychopath was me.

[Universe]

Females don’t really need intelligence to be honest.

It depends. Beduin women in the desert may not need intellgience, yes(no offense intended).
In a western Society they do need it.

[KirillMazur]

As you want, but you are not without knowing that in our rationality inherited from Plato, the emotions (pathos) are considered as non pertinent, they are discredited (at least theoretically), Aristotle considered, on the contrary, in his “Rhetoric”, that there are three proofs or modes of persuasion, that is the “logos”, the “ethos” and the “pathos”. And they all have the same importance.

This is very interesting, but hardly anyone is guided by this knowledge in real life when meeting women, at least around me.
On the other hand, I can be very admired by a woman who is a good specialist in some narrow field and knows how to talk about it in an interesting way, even if I almost don't understand anything about it.
I repeat that academic intelligence can be a great bonus for a woman, but its absence is not fatal either.

[The Blade]

Smart but not boring smart.

[Faklon]

i am going to have a degree in STEM in a few years

In what field?

There are some women that make it to chemistry and health sciences, far more than the ones who make it to technology (more complex mathematics and physics).

[stellan]

In what field?

There are some women that make it to chemistry and health sciences, far more than the ones who make it to technology (more complex mathematics and physics).

microbiology, but i don't see why it matters which one there are more women in, STEM is still and has always been a male-dominated field

[Faklon]

microbiology, but i don't see why it matters which one there are more women in, STEM is still and has always been a male-dominated field

Good for you.

Of course it matters, to be a good doctor you need good planning and social skills. To be a good chemist you need among else cooking skills. Something that many women experience and understand.

To be a good engineer or computer scientist, you should understand and apply complex algorithms. Something that men begin to understand by the first time they design their first soccer pitch.