What exactly makes someone an incel?

[Colonel Frank Grimes]

The way for an incel to stop being an incel is to gain the confidence that comes from knowing how to kill a man. Women are attracted to men who can defend them and they pick up on that from your confidence.

[HelloGuys]

Also I can understand how some guys want "pure" women, I think every guy especially when they are young go through that phase. But as you get older I think your idealizations about women change as you care less about what your peers think of you. Just something I have noticed about incels, they tend to think more about their own image than being actually happy and relating to someone.

"Le diste en el clavo"/you hit the nail on the head; but especially I liked the three last sentences

[Harley]

incel is attitude. i’ve dated one, who despite having a girlfriend, was always miserly and arguing with me why women like taller men( we are the same height) and why his ethnicity has rapists men, etc.

honestly, it’s incel to be overly concerned with this when this is not your problem. if you really feel that concerned, since there’s an influx of men, try transitioning for a more hands on solution. ffs