relationship ptsd

[Ascended]

We are meant to be hurt...love is being vulnerable. The day you stop being vulnerable, is the day you become bitter. Learn from your mistakes, strengthen yourself but always seek love...

[Ylla]

Mortimer literally hijacked your personal and sensitive thread and made it about himself.I usually defend him but it's the final straw

I hope you find strength after what you went through. God bless

[Harley]

my working diagnosis from the therapist is generalized anxiety disorder/ptsd.

we discussed a treatment plan today on what i wanted my recovery goals to be. currently, it’s for me to deal with my dissociation and also procrastination.

i know procrastination seems like a not big deal, but for me, it’s getting to the point of ridiculousness. i think i’ve been highly functioning for too long, so i automatically minimize my concerns to myself in favor of the goal.

i wonder at what point do i stop being mean to myself and give me a break.

[Halime65]

As long as your therapist does not want to give you brain damaging, addictive precriptions then maybe it is a good thing.
It is difficult to find a good therapist.
Sometimes it is the people that we interact with that are the main problems in our lives. Social media actually is not good for mental health.
Here is a link to an awesome individual that uderstands relationships issues:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hr-XHyHeL6w

[Halime65]

Please don't steretype men. The characteristics of the men that you mention above are actually narcissistic men. They are not REAL men, they are COWARDS.
Love,
Halime

[Harley]

As long as your therapist does not want to give you brain damaging, addictive precriptions then maybe it is a good thing.
It is difficult to find a good therapist.
Sometimes it is the people that we interact with that are the main problems in our lives. Social media actually is not good for mental health.
Here is a link to an awesome individual that uderstands relationships issues:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hr-XHyHeL6w

i don’t have a need for medication; to me, it would be red flags if the therapist suggested it. i recently decided to “reset” aka leave my old facebook and created a new one to look at pictures of bunnies and cats. weird, but that’s what makes me happy currently.

i’ll give the video a watch when i get home

[Recoil]

When it comes to living life in general after suffering childhood trauma, it's important as hell to backtrack and process the event when emotionally mature enough. In my personal experience it's the only thing that can help you to build lasting and stable relationships with others. It's really difficult to accept horrible events, but no matter how hard it is to do so it's of utmost importance.

It's not at all uncommon that people that go through traumatic events early on in life go on to live life in a self destructive way, purposefully or unknowingly.

Sometimes you've got to burn the house down to the ground, so that you can build a new one on a strong foundation! It's much better than trying to patch it up as you go. Seeing a therapist is a great move, just make sure that you talk about the underlying cause of your problems, and not the symptoms that arise from it.

I really wish you the best of luck! And i hope that you heal.

[Roy]

Oh, I did not know of your traumatic experiences. So awful, but I've learnt something - also why some people involuntarily get close to people that do harm them even after that.

[Harley]

Oh, I did not know of your traumatic experiences. So awful, but I've learnt something - also why some people involuntarily get close to people that do harm them even after that.

i am working through these issues with a therapist. i think i am fortunate that my mindset tends to look up and fight to be happy, even when i have every reason not to be.

[The Blade]

I think that a lot of the problems especially for women (men tend to just be aggressive and resentful) with PTSD (from abuse etc) tends to be not only mistrust but shame and self loathing. I think since the woman is the weaker sex; they naturally feel to blame as where a man can easily place the blame on others. I think the biggest hurdle is trust; once you can trust someone fully you will learn to accept that you aren't to blame for the circumstances that have been put on your shoulders. I think part of it too is when people (especially women) try to open up, males either don't respond in a supportive way (just out of the defensive nature of men) or don't respond how the female expects or wants them to react.

So regardless communication is the key; both parties have to set their insecurities aside and come together to make things as best as they can be.

Paleo European has summarized it very well. Trust is a very important factor in a relationship. A decent man will always try to make you feel more comfortable and ease your suffering.