Will you get married in your life?

[rothaer]

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The institution of marriage is easy to get into, and hard to get out of.
It would be much more valuable if it was the opposite.
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I'm not sure that what is hard to get out of is really the institution of marriage. In fact, it's easy as well.

Where it's "hard to get out" is all the intricacies of a partnership built to last, with children, house, professional orientation etc. But this is not dependent on a formal marriage. You have essentially the same intricacies if you are not married but do have the same projects. You get intricacies with whatever bigger undertaking, making an education, buying a house, a car, furniture etc. That's unavoidable if you want to reach bigger goals.

Knowing, that of the million other places where he could easily whenever go and be, he's staying next to me.
In my mind it would be much more satisfying to be together that way.

I also would consider that most satisfying. And because of that one should never stop someone that wants to leave.

I don't want us to be bound by a contract, I want us to be bound by nothing but love.

OMG, yeah. But this is not how it works. Habit, laziness and investment (of life time, emotions and money) are other important factors that will keep you together - if you stay together. Precautionary: nothing of this does mean that you must feel uncomfortable.

[rothaer]

"Will you get married in your life?":

I'm married for the second time.

What's my attitude towards the institution of marriage? In earlier times I considered it important and a must to be married. But after I later came to the conclusion that the formal marriage was an invention by the church to be able to carry out marriage prohibitions in order to destroy European clan structures and to exercise statial power towards the people - and it still somewhat is - I see it more critical. So I'm not upset when I experience that a formal marriage gets somewhat out of fashion. On the other hand it's still a good way for two people to start a long term project for being a couple and a family and demonstrating the willingness for that.

If people do not marry out of reservations about a permanent commitment, I do not think that is good. There should be such a readiness.

[Jana]

of course. I have failed marriage(s) behind, always willing to try once again

[Aldaris]

Rather not.

Don't get me wrong, the idea of a life-long loving relationship sounds good to me.
I would even call it ideal in my view.

But personally I don't necessarily see marriage as the way of attaining that.
On the contrary, it sometimes makes people complacent, from what I've noticed.

Many married couples seem to take their relationship somewhat for granted.
Perhaps that's why the divorce rate is so high.

The institution of marriage is easy to get into, and hard to get out of.
It would be much more valuable if it was the opposite.

I don't fear waking up alone.
What I fear is waking up next to a person who wishes they were elsewhere.

So if I'm to spend the rest of my life together with someone, I want it to be just because we felt like being together, day by day.
Not because of an age-old promise. Not because it's too much of a hassle to leave. Not because "it's cheaper to keep her."

Knowing, that of the million other places where he could easily whenever go and be, he's staying next to me.
In my mind it would be much more satisfying to be together that way.

I don't want us to be bound by a contract, I want us to be bound by nothing but love.

You won't betray me, I won't betray you. Enough for me. The million other places mean nothing to me at all. You can take my word for that.

[Mejgusu]

You won't betray me, I won't betray you. Enough for me. The million other places mean nothing to me at all. You can take my word for that.

I never saw this side of this forum. Besides of analyzing side profiles of strangers and dicks annoyance about a picture of Messi with a goat, some people know to be romantic. If we could hear each other I would scream kiss your boy Alenka.

Sorry I am a little bit sentimental, I watched bridge to terabithia today and during the winter I feel lonely.

[Seya]

I'll marry you next year, promise

Gee thanks...

[Celestia]

You won't betray me, I won't betray you. Enough for me. The million other places mean nothing to me at all. You can take my word for that.

That was really sweet lol