I believe in traditional gender roles. (People look at me like I’m an alien when I tell them this)

**Breathe** · 07-12-2021, 02:49 AM

A little background about me:

I am a 27 year old muslimah American lady. I grew up in a pretty traditional household. My dad did all the money earning while my mom did all house chores. They both seemed happy with this.

I feel like these days, when I tell people that I do not plan on working after getting married, they look at me as if I’m an alien. Even the dating life has been difficult. I’ve tried online dating and typically, the first questions men ask are like

“what do you do”?
“Where do you see yourself professionally in 5 years”
“What do you have your degree in”

When I tell them I would like to be a housewife after getting married they just block me. I don’t understand how things can change so much in just one generation. And yes, I am talking about Muslim American men. Even though typically their moms are housewives themselves, they say they want a professional woman. Some even say that they want to split everything 50/50 after getting married. In my religion (Islam), it is a sin for a man to force his wife to enter the workforce to earn money. As this is his responsibility. I feel like men are not men these days. It’s very strange because the burden for providing money has been a responsibility of men for thousands of years. It’s amazing how things have changed so drastically within a couple of decades.

Is it really a bad thing that I believe in traditional gender roles??

**** PLEASE NO RUDE FEMINIST RESPONSES

**Ranger0075** · 07-12-2021, 02:57 AM

You're not wrong at all. All our ancestors used to be like that, rejecting this would be rejecting our lifestyle's ancestors. Men should sustain the house working while women sustain the family being happy with their children.

Western societies are materialistic-minded that's why they think like that, you don't need to earns 40.000U$ per year to survive. You just have to give dignity to your family and money doesn't buy dignity. Don't listen to them, it's not a race championship or smth like that

**Chaos One** · 07-12-2021, 03:05 AM

Not a bad thing, it's up to you to determine what do you want for your life, period.

However, of course some men would prefer a wife who helps paying bills and whatsoever. Than, it's up to them regarding their lifes. Same rule.

**Blondie** · 07-12-2021, 03:23 AM

Originally Posted by Breathe

I’ve tried online dating and typically, the first questions men ask are like

“what do you do”?
“Where do you see yourself professionally in 5 years”
“What do you have your degree in”

Good to you, i saw dick pics everywhere in these sites.

**Dick** · 07-12-2021, 03:45 AM

Yooo Teutone, got one here for ya and she's single and ready to mingle.

**Celestia** · 07-12-2021, 03:57 AM

No there’s nothing wrong with this, you’ll just have to find someone with a matching lifestyle preference. Online dating typically sucks in general :/ good luck!

**Mixdguy17** · 07-12-2021, 06:54 AM

Nah nothing wrong with it, I kind of disagree with that idology, but if thats what u want then its respectable as well, as long as u are happy, no one should force u into doing something u dont want to do. Usually on sites like "Christian Mingle" and probs muslim dating websties, overall conservative dating website, its where youll have the most chance to find someone with the same ideals but like u have said, times have changed. You could also try your local mosque to meet someone, theres probs good chance ssomeone also sahres those same ideals there. Good luck!.

**Ayetooey** · 07-12-2021, 07:17 AM

If you really are a Muslim female then it shouldn’t be hard to find someone with these values.

**Ylla** · 07-12-2021, 07:38 AM

So you don't want to work at all? It comes across as entitled in modern society. We all have to contribute to the workforce so if you want to find a man to finance that lifestyle for you it may be difficult.

**~~SneedsFeedNSeed~~** · 07-12-2021, 07:53 AM

When I look for a wife, I will look for a housewife. Because having kids and working is too much for both to do, and my career pays too much for me to be the stay-at-home parent. Though that would've been fun.
Had I been a woman, I would have done the same as you. Chores and exercising are very easy for me. Why would anyone want to spend 25% of 40-50 years away, doing things they don't choose to do, when they can stay at home and do whatever they want to most of the time?