Originally Posted by
sean
Unlike you, I've experienced all this shit first hand. With experience comes lessons learned, and better communication (usually). Better understanding of want and need from a partner, I've known loads of women and been lucky enough to have dated a fair crowd, stop acting all melancholy about shit you never experienced.
Lucky enough to date Western women ? Did you just hit the weed bong, bro ? So, I've slept with about 30 different women some many times each which is more than the average man but not as much as someone like Tom Jones or Wilt Chamberlain. Honestly, being a virgin is not bad for a male. A male can die a virgin and fail his biological 'selfish-gene' imperative but humans are smart enough to override their genes, at least sometimes, and not be as much as slave to them as animals.
^I'll spoil the book for you mathematically you would have to be insane to pursue modern women , especially American , but others too, seriously. Yet , most people are mentally retarded at math and "it won't happen to me" and "love will win out". Hookers are a better ROI.
The worst part about being a virgin is "you think you are missing out" but you really aren't :
A careless youth may think that the world is meant to be enjoyed, as though it were the abode of some real or positive happiness, which only those fail to attain who are not clever enough to overcome the difficulties that lie in the way. This false notion takes a stronger hold on him when he comes to read poetry and romance, and to be deceived by outward show—the hypocrisy that characterizes the world from beginning to end; on which I shall have something to say presently. The result is that his life is the more or less deliberate pursuit of positive happiness; and happiness he takes to be equivalent to a series of definite pleasures. In seeking for these pleasures he encounters danger—a fact which should not be forgotten. He hunts for game that does not exist; and so he ends by suffering some very real and positive misfortune—pain, distress, sickness, loss, care, poverty, shame, and all the thousand ills of life. Too late he discovers the trick that has been played upon him. --Arthur Schopenhauer
https://www.gutenberg.org/files/1071...-h/10715-h.htm
It follows from this that a man should never try to purchase pleasure at the cost of pain, or even at the risk of incurring it; to do so is to pay what is positive and real, for what is negative and illusory; while there is a net profit in sacrificing pleasure for the sake of avoiding pain. In either case it is a matter of indifference whether the pain follows the pleasure or precedes it. While it is a complete inversion of the natural order to try and turn this scene of misery into a garden of pleasure, to aim at joy and pleasure rather than at the greatest possible freedom from pain—and yet how many do it!—there is some wisdom in taking a gloomy view, in looking upon the world as a kind of Hell, and in confining one's efforts to securing a little room that shall not be exposed to the fire. The fool rushes after the pleasures of life and finds himself their dupe; the wise man avoids its evils; and even if, notwithstanding his precautions, he falls into misfortunes, that is the fault of fate, not of his own folly. As far as he is successful in his endeavors, he cannot be said to have lived a life of illusion; for the evils which he shuns are very real. Even if he goes too far out of his way to avoid evils, and makes an unnecessary sacrifice of pleasure, he is, in reality, not the worse off for that; for all pleasures are chimerical, and to mourn for having lost any of them is a frivolous, and even ridiculous proceeding.---Arthur Schopenhauer
https://www.gutenberg.org/files/1071...-h/10715-h.htm
^ what is pain in this case ? An STD , heartbreak, divorce, alimony etc..
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