Insecure about my breasts

[capocannoniere]

I know I've spoken against it in previous posts, but depending on how much it bothers you, an implant can be the way for you to raise your self-esteem. Some of them are almost imperceptible.

The world demands looks from people like never before, so I don't really think we should adopt a moralistic/naturalistic stance to all of that anymore. It's not a fair game.

[calxpal]

I don't know what to say. American society is weirdly over-sexualized I guess.

I have above average large breasts for my frame and I have never received special treatment about it (better treatment from men, I mean). Here nobody cares, especially not at workplace lol. Our men are way less sexualized. I'm even considered tomboy/boyish looking by some so big tits don't help lmao.

sorry for this reply not being helpful, but I think breast size don't matter much (maybe in US it does), it's more about your personality.

If you are catty and seductive you will get a lot of preferential treatment from men, even with small breasts I think. Men go crazy if you act seductively towards them, I mean I witnessed this when seeing other women in action many times.

so my advice is to learn playing the game, game of seduction, rather than thinking about your bra size.

Hmm that's interesting to mention yeah in the US and Canada there's a surprising focus on emphasis on breast size and I find it strange myself sometimes.

It's interesting to hear that the attitude is different in other countries, that makes me feel a bit differently about this.

Ofc I think personality has more potential than breast size.

Thanks for the advice I'll definitely think about what you said and playing the game.

[Hulu]

Most guys like small breasts. I say work on your personality and your grooming, a more stylish makep, hair, clothes.

[calxpal]

I know I've spoken against it in previous posts, but depending on how much it bothers you, an implant can be the way for you to raise your self-esteem. Some of them are almost imperceptible.

The world demands looks from people like never before, so I don't really think we should adopt a moralistic/naturalistic stance to all of that anymore.

Ooh this is a different and interesting response, I have considered and actually researched implants but the question would be if I'd ever be able to afford them and if I'd go through with it. I agree with your second point.

[calxpal]

Well I didn't expect to get this many responses =) so thanks everyone! I'm gonna take a break from TA and study in a few minutes but I'll check back soon.

[ecptr]

Most guys like small breasts.

When you date a woman with small breasts, you have to lie to her that you like small breasts.

[Chron]

I know I've spoken against it in previous posts, but depending on how much it bothers you, an implant can be the way for you to raise your self-esteem. Some of them are almost imperceptible.

The world demands looks from people like never before, so I don't really think we should adopt a moralistic/naturalistic stance to all of that anymore. It's not a fair game.

Idk, implants seem kind of trashy to me. Do they really help self esteem? I feel like it would cause some kind of weird identity issues. Like you know it's not really you.

[Laly]

I understand you my dear, I feel your pain. I think you are adorable and small breasts are fine, I’ve heard so many males praising small breasts. If I feel you so much, it is because I have an analogous complex. In fact, my breasts are too big, they are not proportionate at all. I have even opened a thread on that big problem of mine. The thread was closed and I still don’t understand why. Really, why was this thread closed? In this thread, I was accused, totally unfairly, of dishonesty, by Celestia (and accustomed of accusations of the kind towards me…).

The problem is that clothes are often too tight for me in the breasts area, but if I take a bigger size, then it looks clearly too big in other areas. So, whatever the size I take, it never looks good. Also, the buttons very often spring at the breast area, and the patterns of the fabrics often look irregular in that area. To look less ridiculous, I should have only made-to-measure clothes! Can you imagine that?! Yes, it’s not really realistic and I don’t know what to do. Maybe I should try to get thinner, maybe my breasts would be less problematic.

A picture I posted here very recently illustrates well the issue:



You can see very well on this picture that at the breasts area, the pattern of the fabric is irregular, because my breasts are too big, there is like a double vertical black band. It shouldn’t be like that!

I would have really preferred to be like you! You can be proud of yourself!

[capocannoniere]

Idk, implants seem kind of trashy to me. Do they really help self esteem? I feel like it would cause some kind of weird identity issues. Like you know it's not really you.

The thing to me is: Nowadays more than anytime in history people glorify looks. So I think we need to be a bit pragmatic if it bothers us a lot and leads to public scrutiny.

I have a personal example, sorry for the false symmetry though.
It's been 6 years I'm long haired. And it's clear that on the eyes of many, especially in the conservative Brazilian South where I lived, that they think I'm a hippie, a weed smoker, a lazy bon-vivant or a bit crazy. I'm perpetually disadvantaged on attracting normie women too. And I know for sure it's the hair for both things, because I'm a white guy, HTN, of above average height for South America and bang average for Europe and America, normally dressed, clean shaven and with polished manners (i think ).

I know very, very well how much my life on the normie world would change if I had a normal haircut. The day I feel it is a total liability for my personal and professional development, I'll cut it even if I like myself right now. Unfortunately the modern world is not a fair game.

[Chron]

When you date a woman with small breasts, you have to lie to her that you like small breasts.

Cope