The social exclusion - the specific Swedish (ultimate) punishment

[rothaer]

The stereotype is that the germans are precisely like that. A collective mindset where individuality is not welcome.

At least here in Spain.

Interesting.

As for the Swedes, they seem individualistic, but how shall a foreigner note the collectivistic pressure among Swedes, if that is expressed just with "sublime signals"? But it shows in the politics of the past 100 years, where Sweden perfomed a kind of socialism light. Knowledgeable Swedes state that the "social unfreedom" shall have been an important additional trigger for emigration to America.

[rothaer]

Foreigners don’t eat food from school canteen, at least most of them don’t. We don’t have enough money for spending 3.20€ for noodles with ketchup. I always had sandwiches and a banana or sometimes leftover food from home. God bless mothers.

School food is free in Sweden for all pupils. It's financed with tax money.

[rothaer]

Nå, Janteløven. Hvor sød! How a folk that wasn't named in a novel set in Jylland took tidbits from as gospel, beats the fuck outta me. Sandemose was Danish-Norwegian. My guess is that we were always that close, but they always talk about Janteløven as an explanation to having an autistic, passive aggressive and shitty attitude. Love Swedes, they're family and all, but I've barely any fucking patience for them.

Danes kinda have this too, heavily Swedish leaning, but slightly more chauvinistic, notoriously sarcastic. Neither Denmark or Sweden brooks a sufferer of tall poppy syndrome. It made itself a part of my upbringing, so I kinda feel bad acknowledging some truth with an anecdotal exposé. The Dutch are great they're a "say what you mean , mean what you say" kinda folk

Interesting, as this topic with such an extent is somewhat new to me. Still learning here. I've no real imagination regarding Danes und Norwegians in this context. To my perception the few Danes (school children as well as adults) I knew from Sweden were also somewhat unadapted and "impossible", not as much as Germans, but in that direction. It's likely not by chance that Paludan happens to be a Dane and Christiania happens to be located in Denmark. Norwegians did not occur in my environment.

[Tooting Carmen]

It's not similar at all. Germans are very direct and not passive agressive like Swedes. I agree they are collectivistic though.
In Germany people will openly tell you what to do, and what you do wrong, but seems Sweden is different story.

I much prefer German way.

On that basis, we have the worst of both worlds in Britain: we combine Swedish politeness and indirectness with American individualism.
(The political analogy that often comes up is how the British expect Scandinavian public services with American taxation levels).

[billErobreren]

Interesting, as this topic with such an extent is somewhat new to me. Still learning here. I've no real imagination regarding Danes und Norwegians in this context. To my perception the few Danes (school children as well as adults) I knew from Sweden were also somewhat unadapted and "impossible", not as much as Germans, but in that direction. It's likely not by chance that Paludan happens to be a Dane and Christiania happens to be located in Denmark. Norwegians did not occur in my environment.

There's a notorious sibling rivalry between the two. So, can't say I'm surprised that they got under the skin of a few Swedes. Where'd you go to school? Around Skåne? Norwegians hardly find reason to turn up in either country, but them and I have always gotten on great, there's some banter and some back and forth, don't know anyone that finds them irritating. Granted, Swedes and Danes happen upon each other more. Love them both, but Norwegians seem to be the better liked sibling.

[Atlantic Reptilian]

Plain and simple. In Sweden you only say that if you are already outside society. Probably because you are a criminal or mentally ill

Well, this is nothing new, to be frank, although I have never been in a situation where someone does what you just mentioned. At first you always try to understand why people do what they do.

It can actually happen to Swedes too, you can even see it daily, usually people decide to be around people of similar mindset etc., they realize that's the only solution (even in Sweden).

The stereotype is that the germans are precisely like that. A collective mindset where individuality is not welcome.

At least here in Spain.

Interesting. I would say many Germans are nice and calm.

It's not similar at all. Germans are very direct and not passive agressive like Swedes. I agree they are collectivistic though.
In Germany people will openly tell you what to do, and what you do wrong, but seems Sweden is different story..

Yes, they are very collectivist but also have traits that are purely individualistic without thought for how it affects others, such as parents getting divorced, with kids, and then going and having a new relationships. And the consequences of step parents can be very severe. Many of them also come off as hedonistic, which is seen differently by different people.

This is very alien to Germans. And most would also not care as they feel no need for such an inclusion. But first of all, you would not even notice all that. I just got it much later when I read it repeatedly.

But these things are fully in force as for Swedes. This also made Swedish physicians ALWAYS follow the administrational non-binding suggestions when it came to not give Covid patients over 80 years of age oxygen but just let them die instead. They all fear - and this is no joke - the "social death". They would likely, as some critical individuals among them excused themselves, not again find any job (most physicians are employed by the state). I'm not sure whether that's a pretext or true. But I got a number of hints that this would be true (the said consequences).

So true. Sweden isn't a dictatorship, obviously, but it has some influences from communism left, IMO. There might be no law saying this or that, but there are a lot of people who have positions that might affect your outcomes. They think it's given that someone in a position of authority is going to abuse it. That is just a whole other world for me, since authority comes with its responsibilities, IMO.

Foreigners don’t eat food from school canteen, at least most of them don’t. We don’t have enough money for spending 3.20€ for noodles with ketchup. I always had sandwiches and a banana or sometimes leftover food from home. God bless mothers.

In Sweden, food is free in school up to secondary school.

[Mejgusu]

In Sweden, food is free in school up to secondary school.

School food is free in Sweden for all pupils. It's financed with tax money.

Well my mistake. Regardless of this topic, if the canteen food is good(unlike what I have seen here), it is a great thing that students get free food. Personally I still wouldn’t eat there, but I think healthy basic food is a fundamental right.

[Mortimer]

I never met a swede. Wait once I did that was at university he was my room companion in the dormitory but only one night and one day he wanted a own room so maybe he did not like me or it was he wanted a single room we spoke only two words

[Atlantic Reptilian]

Well my mistake. Regardless of this topic, if the canteen food is good(unlike what I have seen here), it is a great thing that students get free food. Personally I still wouldn’t eat there, but I think healthy basic food is a fundamental right.

I think taste depends on your preferences. I find that food industrial in its taste and so I don't like it.

[rothaer]

There's a notorious sibling rivalry between the two. So, can't say I'm surprised that they got under the skin of a few Swedes. Where'd you go to school? Around Skåne? Norwegians hardly find reason to turn up in either country, but them and I have always gotten on great, there's some banter and some back and forth, don't know anyone that finds them irritating. Granted, Swedes and Danes happen upon each other more. Love them both, but Norwegians seem to be the better liked sibling.

As for the latter, yeah, but Norwegians do definitely have some sensitivities towards Swedes. But this is a one-sided condition. Whether there is such a thing towards Danes by Norwegians, I don't know.

I was in school in Västergötland. Scanians are actually seen like Danes are seen, although not as Danes (I know that Scania historically is even core Denmark). And Scanians in turn do have a high self esteem as Scanians. To my perception "real" Sweden starts North of Scania, both mentally and topographically.