Are you an Alpha or submissive?

[Hithaeglir]

Some of us are just laid back and do not form relationships based on submission versus dominance struggles. Can we have a third option?

[rothaer]

Personally I don’t think homosexuality is something which results from social environment, it is something about genetics. If a gay guy gets children, I am pretty sure there is a high possibility for having a homosexual child, that probably explains high numbers of homosexuals in Middle East.

Very interesting and also logical. A paradox consequence.

I read homosexuality has to do with female hormones astrogen or what ever you called baby boys get more genes from mothers based of what I read specially when the brain is being created etc.
I have two straight parents so I don't think has to do with genes but rather hormones.

There is the possibility that both is applicable. I also guess it's from hormonal showers at some points in the development of the fetus. But what determines when such a shower is given? Both the genes of the mother and the genes of the fetus may trigger when and how such hormon shower comes.

[rothaer]

You get it! My thing is that I refuse to tone down my intensity for a man, but I still require being led by him in a more traditional gender roles kind of way. Am I direct, opinionated, and sure of what I want? Absolutely, but my guy is too, and a thousand times more hardcore about it. I can be myself at full intensity and still feel submissive to him in comparision. It's great.

The worst thing ever is a guy who says "yes honey" to everything, and ladies like us unfortunately can attract that

Moral of the story... you don't need to weaken yourself to become more submissive and feminine... you need an alpha male who steps up to being dominant and masculine enough to tame you

I'd refuse to do the laborious job of taming you again and again. That effort should not be needed. Lol.

[nittionia]

I'm the youngest in my family and also really shy so I never take the lead

i just got back from a cinco de mayo celebration and i feel ALPHA

[InmostLight]

I'd refuse to do the laborious job of taming you again and again. That effort should not be needed. Lol.

Yes, of course! I should have worded it better. It was really more of an initial "taming" that never needed to be repeated after the start of our relationship, if that makes sense. Meeting him made me realize that there ARE men strong enough to be trusted as leaders, and that it is in my best interest to simply follow them. I'm blessed to not have to water myself down too much to maintain his love.

The one thing that actually surprises me is that, in three whole years, he has never felt the need to punish, discipline, or even yell at me. Maybe that means I'm doing a good job?

But yeah, women who need constant attitude adjustments do not deserve romantic relationships.

[rothaer]

Yes, of course! I should have worded it better. It was really more of an initial "taming" that never needed to be repeated after the start of our relationship, if that makes sense. Meeting him made me realize that there ARE men strong enough to be trusted as leaders, and that it is in my best interest to simply follow them. I'm blessed to not have to water myself down too much to maintain his love.

The one thing that actually surprises me is that, in three whole years, he has never felt the need to punish, discipline, or even yell at me. Maybe that means I'm doing a good job?

But yeah, women who need constant attitude adjustments do not deserve romantic relationships.

Okay, then I get it. There are such other relationships too with permanent battles needed. I wouldn't be so strict to say that someone then doesn't deserve something but a permanent battle simply wouldn't be perceived as satisfactory by me (and obviously also not by you).

[rothaer]

i just got back from a cinco de mayo celebration and i feel ALPHA

I suspected that for quite a while.

[Aila]

I am not a fan of these either/or choices, aren’t they just the 2 sides of the same coin, but in different order and only manage to create co-dependency?

In regards to 2 types of will:
The “You-Centred-Will” (the submissive I guess) types tend to value, esteem themselves by how well or how much they can be of use/help to others.
But when you flip the coin - by doing this the you-centred-will creates dependency in the other, through which they will get their emotional needs met (which amounts to “I-centredness”).

The “I-Centred-Will” (the alpha I guess) types tend to see their value, esteem themselves by how much others respond or cater to their needs.
But again, when you flip the coin, that means attention of the I-centered-will needs to be focused on manipulating the other (which amounts to you-centeredness).

[frankhammer]

Wherever IDGAF is on the scale.

[BakersfieldChimp]

I am as "alpha" as she allows me to be.

Then she claims I am really a "sigma" anyway.

I find I don't bicker over things that aren't really important to me.