How to attract guys?

[Petalpusher]

Ok let's cut to the chest. You will only attract (lure) guys with look at first sight. However you can make yourself several folds more attractive to guys differently if look doesn't work on its own. Making yourself more feminine which is a broad thing still is an overal attitude and vibe we are the only one able to easily pick on, even the tone of your voice, the way you react to things and actually signaling openly what you seek, which seems to be a serious relationship.

The whole rating system is a bit cranky but trust me you can easily add a +2 or even +3 to your look with the right mindset if it's genuine. You wouldn't believe the quality of guys you can attract with it because very very few women get what men really want or look for in women besides look, which is admitedly not much but yet some things can quite easily disqualify you right out of the gate for a serious relationship. If you get this right you will instantly stand out and catch some guy's attention in a group from the crowds of other females, even if they are much better looking than you.

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[RN97]

Controversial, but I think your best luck is using a dating app. Before you flame me, I know you wrote that you don´t want to use them, but hear me out as to why you should use them:
1. You have the advantage as a woman. 75% of tinder users are male (https://www.businessofapps.com/data/tinder-statistics/) which means that women are more wanted on tinder than men, which is also reflected in the fact that women swipe right a lot less frequently and are a lot more picky.

2. IMO, the rise of metoo and similar movements in north America and western Europe causes men to not really dare speak to women in public unless they are drunk or in a club/ bar. What is the likelyhood that a man, even if he likes you, will approach you? Seems that you´re banking on a strategy with a low success rate.

3. Dating apps are not as bad as you think. One third of Americans met their partners online: https://increditools.com/how-many-couples-meet-online/
Yes, tinder has a somewhat earned reputation as hook-up app, but use some common sense. If a way more attractive dude shows interest in you and he wants to meet at his/ your place the first time, or if he asks for a movie night/ wine evening, take the hint that he´s only after one thing. However, if you´re a bit smart about it, and not too picky, you´ll find plenty of young men that are looking for serious relationships willing to take you out on genuine dates. Doesn´t have to be spectacular; coffee dates, grabbing a drink, just walking etc.

I met both my ex and current GF on a dating app and it simply works with no issue. Other options would be at work, through friends or at a club/ bar. I think that those options leave a lot to be desired these days. First you´ll have to find a man willing to risk getting a sexual harassment case, then you gotta hope someone you like is available and also likes you. With dating apps you can clearly see who likes you and by how they communicate with you, you can also figure out what their intentions are.

[Hithaeglir]

I think the first question you should ask yourself is what is the type of guy you would like to attract. The second thing will be to understand what do you want from the person you might attract, which will define the way you have to approach the situation

Trying to approach some guys yourself will give you some practice and make you less shy and reserved.

[Jana]

Controversial, but I think your best luck is using a dating app. Before you flame me, I know you wrote that you don´t want to use them, but hear me out as to why you should use them:
1. You have the advantage as a woman. 75% of tinder users are male (https://www.businessofapps.com/data/tinder-statistics/) which means that women are more wanted on tinder than men, which is also reflected in the fact that women swipe right a lot less frequently and are a lot more picky.

2. IMO, the rise of metoo and similar movements in north America and western Europe causes men to not really dare speak to women in public unless they are drunk or in a club/ bar. What is the likelyhood that a man, even if he likes you, will approach you? Seems that you´re banking on a strategy with a low success rate.

3. Dating apps are not as bad as you think. One third of Americans met their partners online: https://increditools.com/how-many-couples-meet-online/
Yes, tinder has a somewhat earned reputation as hook-up app, but use some common sense. If a way more attractive dude shows interest in you and he wants to meet at his/ your place the first time, or if he asks for a movie night/ wine evening, take the hint that he´s only after one thing. However, if you´re a bit smart about it, and not too picky, you´ll find plenty of young men that are looking for serious relationships willing to take you out on genuine dates. Doesn´t have to be spectacular; coffee dates, grabbing a drink, just walking etc.

I met both my ex and current GF on a dating app and it simply works with no issue. Other options would be at work, through friends or at a club/ bar. I think that those options leave a lot to be desired these days. First you´ll have to find a man willing to risk getting a sexual harassment case, then you gotta hope someone you like is available and also likes you. With dating apps you can clearly see who likes you and by how they communicate with you, you can also figure out what their intentions are.

I don't think Apps work, you don't know if you will have chemistry with other person, their interests, personality etc. Looks isn't enough. It gives too little information.
IMO it's better to meet people on place where they share your interests if it has to be online.

[InmostLight]

I think the first question you should ask yourself is what is the type of guy you would like to attract. The second thing will be to understand what do you want from the person you might attract, which will define the way you have to approach the situation

Trying to approach some guys yourself will give you some practice and make you less shy and reserved.

In my opinion, it's okay to practice your charms while interacting with the general male public, even if you aren't interested in them. It helps you realize what works, as well as forming habits of graceful movement and speech, kindness, poise, etc

[Cybele]

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Good marketing.

[Hithaeglir]

In my opinion, it's okay to practice your charms while interacting with the general male public, even if you aren't interested in them. It helps you realize what works, as well as forming habits of graceful movement and speech, kindness, poise, etc

Definitely and you get what you want faster than waiting for them to do it first.

[Colonel Frank Grimes]

But single women are happiest demographic through bro.

That may be true but the OP is an individual. You can make statements about what is typical of a group but not when it comes to an individual. If she were content being single, she wouldn't have made this thread.

I see way more single bitter men online.

The issue is their will to power is stifled. Imagine a guy being a customer service rep instead of being able to make something with his hands. What I noticed talking to customer service reps over the years is the women are more upbeat because, I think, they're helping someone, while the guy always sounds like he wants to kill himself. I suspect a big part of men's lack of happiness (in the 1st World) is due to the manufacturing industry being sent overseas. I can't imagine anyone from my father's generation doing the work needed now.

I don't think that anyone need relationship.

Well, that's you. I also don't care for a relationship now. Maybe the occasional handjob would be fine.

And online interaction can easily replace in real life interaction. If you have hard time making friends in real life than just do it online.

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I get a little nervous when I hear people preferring online 'friendship' over someone in their actual life. It, ironically, reveals a detachment from people.

[nittionia]

In my opinion, it's okay to practice your charms while interacting with the general male public, even if you aren't interested in them. It helps you realize what works, as well as forming habits of graceful movement and speech, kindness, poise, etc

A good trip and fall is always charming too

[InmostLight]

A good trip and fall is always charming too

A certain style of strategic "clumsiness" is unbeatably charming, you get it