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Im not saying objectively that males are nicer than women or women are nicer than males.
Im saying for many or most guys besides from there main GF or wife they will tend to have in their lifetime more friendships with males than females.
This is generally speaking what happens socially, so in one sense it might be said overall for many beside there long term relationship with their female partner they will generally have spent more time with male friends.
This changes quite bit after marriage and having kids though.
I mean as a male if you have a female friend and you get close to her - there is probably going to be some underlying feelings if not from both of you then at least from one of you. Every relationship has some currency maybe your playing the nice guy listening to her giving her advice she admires you
and your getting some thing even if its simply you enjoy talking to her or being helpful. But chance is she might be starting to have feelings for you and maybe you dont feel that way about her. So in the end close friendships between male - female unless the guy is gay and in a way why would a guy wanna talk like a girlfriend to another girl advising her or reconciling her about her love life issues, it happens but its also kinda weird.
"Combative sports" i know about it I did amateur boxing for 6 years, male friends manipulative ok I get it, I mean in a way when you deal with people - you have to know what your dealing with and what you can and cant expect. Friends are like that too - you know what and what not you can expect from them - the ones who will turn up late to a meeting , the ones who will return your call asap soon as they see you called them and the other ones who will call you back maybe 4 to 5 days later, you learn what to expect from each ones nature. You also know what each one is good for = this one is good to go for a beer and watch the fights, the other one is good to talk about Politics, thats the truth of it how relationships work. Yes people like each other and develop some feeling and attachment but it also still works this way "transactional way" too.
In interpersonal relationships if you can understand perspective then you can understand a lot.
Another thing , with most male friends I can have robust conversations or even debates and disagreements.
It can be doen in a way where we dont hurt each other feelings or get pissed off with each other.
With women who are oppinionated , its almost impossible to do this, many times depending the situation but I might be more inclined to take a diplomatic response or if I dont give a f-ck if she gets offended then I may say what I think even if disagreeable to her point. With many women who are conversational unless you do this in a light comical way, they get offended, even if you logically outpoint them in a debate /argument they may well hold it against you and take a spitefull regard Im sure Ive done it here but I dont really care Im not an asskisser (except woman with cute kissable booty) it would be easiest thing to get along with everyone by being agreeable and kissing ass, I believe in free speech.
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