Would/could you be part of a throuple?

[CosmoLady]

I am in a lifelong menage-a-trois (throuple) due to some very unusual life circumstances.

This arrangement can work well long-term, but only in rare/unusual conditions:
if everyone gets along, if everyone is chill, if there is no resentment, and if there is only 1 man.
Only 1 rooster in the henhouse please!
Women are naturally able to care for each other and even raise each other's children, in a way that men can not.

This arrangement is common in nature,
and was common in the past in difficult conditions and if the man was powerful or wealthy,
and will become more common in the future I think.

The efficient division of labour of 3 or more adults (2 or more women) in the same household is a great benefit;
but if the women are too demanding of the man's time for their own personal reasons,
then they will keep him busy with "non-essential" tasks,
and thus make him an unproductive member of the household,
turning him into a butler, therapist, or sex slave, instead of a natural leader, protector, provider.

When the times get very tough, especially in a post-Christian era,
new groups/communities with unequal male-female ratios will inevitably form,
and in the mostly-female groups,
there will inevitably be a division into wives, nannies, servants, labourers, concubines, etc.
Or maybe I watch too much sci-fi

[kingmob]

You could say so although I'm not 100% sure whether I want to bare my soul in public . I was just interested in getting different perspectives. How about you? I see that you answered 'maybe' in the poll

In the past, a female partner of mine encouraged me to pursue flings with other women in our circle, because of the way it made her feel about me and our relationship.

I don't profess to be an expert on relationships in general, only what I have learned from my own experience.

After some spiritual searching, I have realized what someone close to me told me, there's enough space in our heart to love many, without compromising the integrity of our love for each one of them.

Of course, in our daily life, this is easier said than done, we are often jealous and petty creatures trying to survive in a fallen world, so those involved would have to make a tremendous leap in terms of the spiritual aspect of the endeavor.

[Kazimiera]

In the past, a female partner of mine encouraged me to pursue flings with other women in our circle, because of the way it made her feel about me and our relationship.

I don't profess to be an expert on relationships in general, only what I have learned from my own experience.

After some spiritual searching, I have realized what someone close to me told me, there's enough space in our heart to love many, without compromising the integrity of our love for each one of them.

Of course, in our daily life, this is easier said than done, we are often jealous and petty creatures trying to survive in a fallen world, so those involved would have to make a tremendous leap in terms of the spiritual aspect of the endeavor.

It is a big adjustment but not something you can't get your head around. Obviously it isn't for everyone and not everyone can handle a situation like this. I don't think is a thing you consciously go into. It happens organically. The next thing, you wipe out your eyes and HELLO, guess what, you've now got two and there isn't anything you can do other than go with the flow. It is a beautiful flow though. Don't you think?

[kingmob]

It is a beautiful flow though. Don't you think?

Yes, I believe it is. Everything born out of love always is.

[Mortimer]

It's not an open relationship where everyone fucks everyone, like an orgy. In fact, the sexual aspect takes a back seat because it is about emotions.

I realised that, that it is not about sex only, but my answer would be still the same, i wouldnt want a second man, no way, only two or more women, and i could love all of them, i couldnt handle if my woman or women love more men, not only me.

[Gallop]

It is not for me.