Single Mother (Reality Check)

[Mortimer]

I accept single mothers

[Dušan]

I dated a single father, didn't mind he has little daughter. I was more bothered he was a deadbeat, absent father. Such men are to be avoided.

Arent you single mother yourself?

[lei.talk]

Good luck finding a woman
who literally wants to be your property.

...a wild/irrational/impulsive/instinctive creature
that will enjoy a much longer and better life
in your care and with-in your boundaries.

many persons visit an animal shelter
to rescue neglected/abandoned/abused animals,

while a person with fore-sight
will eschew the damaged ones

(just as he does not choose fruit at the grocer
which has been bruised/miss-handled/damaged in transit).

[Nurzat]

I dated a single father, didn't mind he has little daughter. I was more bothered he was a deadbeat, absent father. Such men are to be avoided.

most fathers around us are absent - my wife tells me in private, as she speaks to the wives of my friends, you know how groups separate into men, women and kids when friends with kids gather. it's a delicate subject which I never took up with my friends, though my wife asked me to, I don't know if it's appropriate for me to stick my nose into their domestic business, I will most probably continue not to mention it with them. from what their wives tell my wife, they tend to price their own time a lot (they go out alone or with friends, they come later from work staying in the city without something real to do, they procrastinate at home with their hobbies etc) and don't mind leaving their wives to cook, clean and take care of the kids (bring them to and from kindergarten etc) in a disproportionate amount compared to their own help with these. in my house we try and split everything and in some periods one or the other is doing more as his work schedule allows it, but we split housework and kids activities the best we can. and we are no feminists, so nothing ideological behind that. then we do have a couple of examples where they split house work as well, but most aren't and I understand it's common to say to the wife "and what will you do, divorce? who's gonna take you with kids?" we even know of a case where they didn't have sex in 2 or 3 years now, him not wanting to, otherwise normal couple with normal jobs

[Scarface F]

Arent you single mother yourself?

Yes, and? I am planning to try again with my baby daddy and have more children very soon. I want at least 4 kids, maybe 5.

So I concluded no time to waste any longer and in the end we love each other.

[Scarface F]

most fathers around us are absent - my wife tells me in private, as she speaks to the wives of my friends, you know how groups separate into men, women and kids when friends with kids gather. it's a delicate subject which I never took up with my friends, though my wife asked me to, I don't know if it's appropriate for me to stick my nose into their domestic business, I will most probably continue not to mention it with them. from what their wives tell my wife, they tend to price their own time a lot (they go out alone or with friends, they come later from work staying in the city without something real to do, they procrastinate at home with their hobbies etc) and don't mind leaving their wives to cook, clean and take care of the kids (bring them to and from kindergarten etc) in a disproportionate amount compared to their own help with these. in my house we try and split everything and in some periods one or the other is doing more as his work schedule allows it, but we split housework and kids activities the best we can. and we are no feminists, so nothing ideological behind that. then we do have a couple of examples where they split house work as well, but most aren't and I understand it's common to say to the wife "and what will you do, divorce? who's gonna take you with kids?" we even know of a case where they didn't have sex in 2 or 3 years now, him not wanting to, otherwise normal couple with normal jobs

This sounds like Croatian reality too. Very sad. I respect your mature attitude and willingness to help your wife. I know you care nothing for feminism lol.

[Dušan]

Yes, and? I am planning to try again with my baby daddy and have more children very soon. I want at least 4 kids, maybe 5.

So I concluded no time to waste any longer and in the end we love each other.

Good luck., it would be nice that you reconcile with Stears.

[Varda]

Yes, and? I am planning to try again with my baby daddy and have more children very soon. I want at least 4 kids, maybe 5.

So I concluded no time to waste any longer and in the end we love each other.

A career and lots of children do not go together.

[Scarface F]

A career and lots of children do not go together.

I have plenty of money. Children don't need much and I don't intend to provide them with luxury. I always had much more than I needed materially and was ungrateful and lazy as a result.

Stears also agrees it would make him better man. With more children to provide for he can't act like a artist anymore. He must get himself togheder. And he will.

My country is dying and I see nothing more important than to have more children. I don't see any meaning to live out of it. It would also make my loving parents happy.

[Victor]

I have plenty of money. Children don't need much and I don't intend to provide them with luxury. I always had much more than I needed materially and was ungrateful and lazy as a result.

Stears also agrees it would make him better man. With more children to provide for he can't act like a artist anymore. He must get himself togheder. And he will.

My country is dying and I see nothing more important than to have more children. I don't see any meaning to live out of it. It would also make my loving parents happy.

I remember you was telling like you're planning Cro only spouse in future. But I'm happy you've changed your mind, because I don't see a problem there, Stears is not a Paki and if your children gonna grow up in Cro, having Croatian as mother tongue they will be good Croatians and citizens, with a Hungarian vibe. And I feel like Stears is just your man, just like you're his woman, just both of you had some blocks or unconscious fears in your mind. Godspeed, anyway.