Please don't slut shame women

[tropicalslavic]

Promiscuity is one of the personality disorder characteristics. Such people should avoid relationships.

I was diagnosed with a personality disorder where one of the symptoms is either avoidance of intimacy or promiscuity, both of them are manifestations of this personality disorder's tendency to avoid true emotional intimacy. I am in therapy for it and this is the one symptom out of the diagnostic criteria that never applied to me (apart from the mistrust/paranoid ideation associated with it), but it's there and very common.

It begs the question. If someone is capable of having meaningless sex, are they even capable of loving and trusting someone and being able to have a functional relationship? Not "omg this whore had sex within two serious years-long relationships" because obviously that's not the same thing, but like... "this person could participate in an act intended to be life-creating with another person and completely forget about them the next day"... that is borderline sociopathy honestly.

[Immanenz]

I was diagnosed with a personality disorder where one of the symptoms is either avoidance of intimacy or promiscuity, both of them are manifestations of this personality disorder's tendency to avoid true emotional intimacy. I am in therapy for it and this is the one symptom out of the diagnostic criteria that never applied to me (apart from the mistrust/paranoid ideation associated with it), but it's there and very common.

It begs the question. If someone is capable of having meaningless sex, are they even capable of loving and trusting someone and being able to have a functional relationship? Not "omg this whore had sex within two serious years-long relationships" because obviously that's not the same thing, but like... "this person could participate in an act intended to be life-creating with another person and completely forget about them the next day"... that is borderline sociopathy honestly.

what type of disorder women have who are in relationships with ugly, rich men? Freud says: The more perfect a person is on the outside, the more demons they have on the inside. Either he realized sm like a strong surpression mechanism in rigid people or he must really hated ESTJ types.

There is nothing evolutionary positive about "emotions" but giving our individual existence more "meaning" than it actually has. So a woman being with a rich guy has nothing to do with some "emotional bounding" they have but its pure pragmatic behaviour, while sleeping with a guy is about pleasure.

[Aldaris]

In most cultures and throughout most of recorded human history, the man conquers the woman and the woman is usually the one who gives in.

Society sees value in those who conquer something, but not in those who give in too much. Therefore, a woman who has had many partners is seen as someone with no criteria, easy to be convinced by anyone. They are not the type of women most men would like to date.

It's probably even a Darwinian method of natural selection and evolution, encoded in us. In the animal kingdom there are several male species that kill their rivals' offspring to ensure their own lineage. Effective contraception is a relatively recent development in human history and so, until recently, having multiple partners in most cases meant having several offspring from different competing partners. Humans are rational animals but likely in our male subconscious this is a method of natural selection. Why else most men tend to like younger women, which are usually more fertile and likely have had less partners or none at all?

I don't think anyone here will approach someone directly to "slut shame" them in the face, but you won't be able to change what most men think about women who live a life of promiscuity. And I'm sorry to break it to you but in my experience anyone who says they don't care is just looking to get laid. For that, you can be a "slut" and there will be no problem.

It's indeed an example of natural selection in action. Firstly, preference for chaste women may have minimized the risk of investing resources in offspring that were not biologically related to them, as previously implicitly addressed. Additionally, chastity and commitment are positively correlated, so chaste women are more likely to form stable relationships, thus aiding in the effective raising of offspring. This feedback loop continued for thousands of years. What's expected to happen?

[Scarface F]

what type of disorder women have who are in relationships with ugly, rich men? Freud says: The more perfect a person is on the outside, the more demons they have on the inside. Either he realized sm like a strong surpression mechanism in rigid people or he must really hated ESTJ types.

There is nothing evolutionary positive about "emotions" but giving our individual existence more "meaning" than it actually has. So a woman being with a rich guy has nothing to do with some "emotional bounding" they have but its pure pragmatic behaviour, while sleeping with a guy is about pleasure.

I remember few years ago you had Italian girlfriend or something like that. And you wrote yestarday you already changed 7 this year only. Would make a guess you were hurt and dissapointed by a woman and now you try to avoid any emotions and genuine love for other person.

Hope I'm wrong.

[Immanenz]

I remember few years ago you had Italian girlfriend or something like that. And you wrote yestarday you already changed 7 this year only. Would make a guess you were hurt and dissapointed by a woman and now you try to avoid any emotions and genuine love for other person.

Hope I'm wrong.

Actually, i was bored in the relationship, she is nice, but very selfish in her "nice-ness", also she had no drive.

My "hurt feelings" run rather from very early teenage years, in all honesty.

[Jehan]

That's totally the kind of thread a slut would open!

[Victor]

That's totally the kind of thread a slut would open!

You seem to be a specialist. She's a youngster from another realm and indeed self-indoctrinated online with woke Western bullshit. How many relationships did you have in last 5-10 years to label anyone?

[Universe]

I am only into women's. So don't talk about me

I would date a bisexual women if she had 30 body count

LGBTQ women seriously don't care about body count

Ask yourself why? If not for gender roles

I actually agree with you. Slut shaming usually comes from men and its a product of a patriarchal society.
I have quite a few lesbian friends. They don’t slut shame, count bodies or body shame. They are one of the least judgmental people I know.

It makes perfect sense that homosexual men or women don't care about body count, as they do not breed. When you want to have a family you need stability and long term relationship not promiscuity. Nowadays slut shaming is not as popular as back in the day because people are less family oriented.

[Dušan]

Men and women both need to limit sex to serious long-term relationships.

But what if someone cant find a suitable partner for serious long-term relationship, and have strong sexual urge?
One-night stand and friends with benefits are indeed degenerate, but urge needs to be satisfied.

[Dušan]

well, wait- western capitalistic societies gave women freedom and in which way did they develop? into narcisistic manipulators and seducing hedonists- thats the monkey that we are talking about. give monkey freedom, and see how monkey behaves.

Nothing of that would happen if there is still strong patriarchal system and women know their place.
Since there is no patriarchial mode anymore, women are not loyal and respectful to men, we have promiscuity on the scene.