Asexuality

[PetiteParisienne]

It's hard for me to understand how someone can be asexual, mainly due to the fact that I have such a high sex drive, but it's still interesting, nonetheless. I wonder: Do they ever masturbate or want an orgasm? Not having sex with someone is one thing, but do they ever feel the need for an orgasm?

From what I have heard, it depends. Some asexuals can enjoy the act; they just don't experience sexual attraction to anyone.

[Óttar]

They say women's sexual peak is 38 and for a man it's 22. Not good news for women.

I had this discussion recently with an older woman. After this, we had more than just discussion.

[Supreme American]

It's hard for me to understand how someone can be asexual, mainly due to the fact that I have such a high sex drive, but it's still interesting, nonetheless. I wonder: Do they ever masturbate or want an orgasm? Not having sex with someone is one thing, but do they ever feel the need for an orgasm?

I see sex and love as human needs, so I don't understand those who don't think about it. In my late teens, I avoided dating for a time because then I was more of a free spirit type that didn't want to be bogged down by caring for a boyfriend, but that was just a phase, and a very short one at that.

[Supreme American]

From what I have heard, it depends. Some asexuals can enjoy the act; they just don't experience sexual attraction to anyone.

That confuses me. Attraction to others period is sexual in nature. This is a natural progression so I can't fathom not experiencing sexual attraction but enjoying sex itself.

[PetiteParisienne]

That confuses me. Attraction to others period is sexual in nature. This is a natural progression so I can't fathom not experiencing sexual attraction but enjoying sex itself.

It's possible to understand in theory, but a sexual person cannot relate to it.

[Jerry]

One of my former girfriends had never masturbated and never had an orgasm. I found it strange as hell and the orgasm part really tough to take - I tried everything lol - actually it was one of the reasons that it didn't work out; I can't be with someone who considers sex as such a small a part of life.

Not like she rejected having sex, and we did it quite a lot - I was 19-20 - but I had the feeling that she just wants to do it for me in the beginning of the relationship and it would have a nasty (not in a good way) turn as the relationship matures....

[Baron Samedi]

One of my former girfriends had never masturbated. I found it strange as hell and actually it was one of the reasons that it didn't work out; I can't be with someone who considers sex as such a small a part of life.

Not like she rejected having sex, and we did it quite a lot - I was 19-20 - but I had the feeling that she just wants to do it for me in the beginning of the relationship and it would have a nasty (not in a good way) turn as the relationship matures....

I can only wonder just what you make of life, then, with that sort of mentality.

How base.

[mymy]

They say women's sexual peak is 38 and for a man it's 22. Not good news for women.

Are you sure it's not the opposite? Lol...

Well, i believe individual differences exist. I never had problems with sex drive, or to feel attraction. And i think about it daily. But, i have good control, i decided what i want and i don't want to ruin it just because i was weak to control my instincts... And there are many different ways of satisfying your needs... we have the choice.
Oh, but when i will be in stable relation, i won't accept to hear no.

[Supreme American]

One of my former girfriends had never masturbated. I found it strange as hell and actually it was one of the reasons that it didn't work out; I can't be with someone who considers sex as such a small a part of life.

Not like she rejected having sex, and we did it quite a lot - I was 19-20 - but I had the feeling that she just wants to do it for me in the beginning of the relationship and it would have a nasty (not in a good way) turn as the relationship matures....

Could be an issue of upbringing, especially if they're from a very religious background. People in that case can sit on their sexuality fearing temptation to sin, much like I imagine Tim Tebow is doing.

She may also have not admitted her sexuality for whatever reason, such as said religious upbringing or just embarrassment. Some people aren't comfortable really showing another person their intimate selves, even if even a romantic relationship.

[Jerry]

I can only wonder just what you make of life, then, with that sort of mentality.

How base.

Well sex is an essential part of life and it does not make me any more unintellectual or primitive to want it in a relationship, on the contrary, your opinions are bordering unnatural