Asexuality

[Baron Samedi]

I have to admit, you sound like a Buddhist ascetic or Catholic monk here.

Sex isn't really extolled in our society, it is only considered valuable insofar as it can be used as a marketing device.

Ottar, you of all people should know what I'm talking about here.

And I'm certainly not an ascetic of puritanical in any way, however I am a form of a gnostic, and value spiritual things above the fleshy/material in all ways.

[Supreme American]

Ottar, you of all people should know what I'm talking about here.

And I'm certainly not an ascetic of puritanical in any way, however I am a form of a gnostic, and value spiritual things above the fleshy/material in all ways.

I can't see that because nothing spiritual is provable to exist, thus it's all merely speculation and blind faith. At least with things of the flesh and material, we know it's there and we can work with it.

[Moonbird]

Erm....well.....I sorta tried flying solo....had NO luck in *getting anywhere* and basically gave up. My first big O did not happen until I was 30 years old.....and it wasn't even me that gave it to myself lol.

I can correlate to this. While men seem to know how to get orgasms by pure instinct, many women on the other hand (including me) have had to learn it by trial and error. The good thing is that it's like riding a bycycle, once you've learned the trick you never forget it.

[Baron Samedi]

I can't see that because nothing spiritual is provable to exist, thus it's all merely speculation and blind faith. At least with things of the flesh and material, we know it's there and we can work with it.

My blind faith keeps me from offing myself, therefore it's certainly something I can work with.

Screwing isn't going to keep me from yearning for the grave. Trust me.

[Amapola]

I am not asexual, but I have an incredible control about my sexual desire. I am definitely not a slave of it, and I don't say or do stupid things blinded by it.

[mymy]

I agree. One night stands and casual sex have little to no emotional substance. But that doesn't mean that two people who are not in love can't care about one another and genuinely enjoy having sex, and each other's company. It's a sliding scale.

I find today's clubbing and drinking scene to be vile in terms of how people use it as a meat market.

That's definitely not for me, and i do not practice it, but however i can understand. People have choice and right to express their sexuality way they want... from total celibate to very promiscuous behaving. And it doesn't make them bad.

I can correlate to this. While men seem to know how to get orgasms by pure instinct, many women on the other hand (including me) have had to learn it by trial and error. The good thing is that it's like riding a bycycle, once you've learned the trick you never forget it.

I never had orgasm with a partner. On my own yes. But, i also have very poor sexual experience... with a partner. I believe we didn't match, and no matter how much great relation we had-in terms of understanding, sex was the thing that ruined relation. I wasn't happy because of it, i felt limited. So, yes, sex is important for a good relation, wanted or not. Especially if you are individual with strong sexual instincts.

I am not asexual, but I have an incredible control about my sexual desire. I am definitely not a slave of it, and I don't say or do stupid things blinded by it.

Control of body, i have too(in a way that i don't go around and have sex just with anyone). But, what about control of mind? And do you express your desires other way?

[Amapola]

Control of body, i have too(in a way that i don't go around and have sex just with anyone). But, what about control of mind? And do you express your desires other way?

As far as I see, control of mind goes hand in hand with control of body. I express my desire when I think it's appropriate, and I let myself go... (I am quite private for such things).

[PetiteParisienne]

That's definitely not for me, and i do not practice it, but however i can understand. People have choice and right to express their sexuality way they want... from total celibate to very promiscuous behaving. And it doesn't make them bad.

I don't really understand it, but I won't judge someone for it. People can do whatever the want with their bodies as long as it's consensual.

[Supreme American]

My blind faith keeps me from offing myself, therefore it's certainly something I can work with.

Screwing isn't going to keep me from yearning for the grave. Trust me.

Well from my own experience, if there are things in life that are blocks to you that seem impossible or difficult to overcome, it can create a false impression in your mind that you can't get away from it or that things will never change or improve, thus you feel depressed because of it. I'd suggest not taking that very seriously. I've learned a lot in that regard from experience as I have lived my life. People make a lot of mistakes when they think too badly of current circumstances and don't think things will change. I think this tends to especially happen with youth.

[Jake Featherston]

Easy to understand. I'm 25 and practically have zero sex drive nowadays.

Men under 30 with little or no sex drive, probably should make inquiries about the state of their medical condition. I'm not saying that to be a troll. I'm 41, and I know a lot of guys my age, and its not typical for one's sex drive to fall off nearly so much even at my age, let alone at yours.