Who should pay on dates?

[Hurrem sultana]

I never went out with a guy who did not want to pay,it is just a very strong tradition in Bosnia

[Talvi]

On the times you paid for yourself, did you and the guy get together?

No.

Actually the less I like a guy the less I would let him pay. Its just awkward.

With the current guy I let him buy me drinks when we first met. But when we went out to eat the first time I wasnt sure (there was the whole problem that he is a turk) so I tried resisting him paying but i couldnt in the end. (i didnt have cash and the place didnt accept card) After that he as paid for almost all the times we ate out I think....

[Contra Mundum]

In my mind a real gentlemen would pay,especially on the first few dates.
But after you get in a relationship, you should deffintley split the costs?

In my mind, just the opposite. If they don't know one another well, they should split the cost, especially if they both have the money. Otherwise, you are buying a stranger dinner just because they have a vagina and that's bullsh*t.

Once a man gets to know her over time, he may then be more generous because she would be worth it to him because of her personality, intelligence, character, etc.

[Strawberry]

In my mind, just the opposite. If they don't know one another well, they should split the cost, especially if they both have the money. Otherwise, you are buying a stranger dinner just because they have a vagina and that's bullsh*t.

Once a man gets to know her over time, he may then be more generous because she would be worth it to him because of her personality, intelligence, character, etc.

Makes sense actually,
But it is an automatic turn-off for a woman if a man doesn't even offer to pay on a first date

[Contra Mundum]

Of course I still pay for dates because I'm a sucker, unless she insists on paying her share.

[Hurrem sultana]

In my mind, just the opposite. If they don't know one another well, they should split the cost, especially if they both have the money. Otherwise, you are buying a stranger dinner just because they have a vagina and that's bullsh*t.

Once a man gets to know her over time, he may then be more generous because she would be worth it to him because of her personality, intelligence, character, etc.

thats just weird,if a guy behaved like that on a very first date there would be no other dates.you should not see it in that way,it is simply tradition

[Contra Mundum]

thats just weird,if a guy behaved like that on a very first date there would be no other dates.you should not see it in that way,it is simply tradition

It's also tradition that a woman stay in the home, cook dinner, clean the house and raise 8 kids.

[Quorra]

thats just weird,if a guy behaved like that on a very first date there would be no other dates.you should not see it in that way,it is simply tradition

He's just feminist.

[Hurrem sultana]

It's also tradition that a woman stay in the home, cook dinner, clean the house and raise 8 kids.

well many women would love to be house wives, don't worry and a real man can offer that to his wife..but today the reality is different,a woman has to help the man to feed the household

mary knows more about these kind of things

[Hurrem sultana]

He's just feminist.

feminists are a big turn off, especially male feminists