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Mate poaching
http://homepage.psy.utexas.edu/homep...gInventory.docItem Composition of Human Mate Poaching Attraction Tactics
Arrange Easy Sexual Access
He appears naked in potential mate’s room or car.
He goes out with potential mate under friendly premise, and turns it into a romantic encounter.
He is casual about a possible sexual encounter, suggesting that it’s just for tonight.
He tells potential mate that the current partner will never know if she sleeps with him.
Be Generous
She shows that she is a caring person.
She is extra polite to him.
She helps potential mate with work or chores.
She does nice things for him (e.g., cooking, cleaning).
She gives potential mate special things (e.g., make tapes, cookies).
Break-Up Their Relationship
He encourages the involved parties to break up.
He tells her “you’re not married, he doesn’t own you.”
He tries to get the other mate jealous.
Demonstrate Resources [4th item used in Study 4]
She spends money on potential mate.
She gives flowers to potential mate.
She tries to impress him with her achievements.
[She displays high levels of ambition.]
Derogate Rival
He points out the present mate’s bad points.
He ridicules his rival.
He shows her that her present mate is “scum.”
Derogate Rival’s Physical Appearance [2nd item used in Study 4]
She puts down the appearance of her rival.
[She calls her rival fat and ugly.]
Develop Emotional Connection
He confides in potential mate to get her closer to him.
He tries to become a very good friend of the potential mate.
He talks about their mutual interests.
Develop Social Ties
She asks him to help out with something.
She invites the potential mate to a party.
She attempts to get his peer group to like her.
She cries in front of potential mate and talks about her problems.
Display Dominance
He dominates his rival in athletic events.
He challenges his rival to a fight.
Enhance Physical Appearance
She improves her looks and appearance.
She flaunts her body.
Enhance Potential Mate
He boosts her ego.
He compliments the potential mate.
He tells the potential mate that she deserves someone better.
Get Mate Drunk
She gets the potential mate drunk and then takes advantage of him.
Manipulate Emotional Commitment of Rival
He shows an emotional side that her current mate does not express.
He attempts to prove that his feelings are stronger than her other mate’s.
He makes the potential mate happier when with him than when with rival.
He tells potential mate that her current mate is emotionally hurting her.
Manipulate Sexual Commitment of Rival
She tries to prove that her rival is cheating on him.
She gets her rival interested in someone else.
She tells the potential mate that his current mate is probably sleeping with someone else also.
She sets up her rival to have another male around her.
Provide Easy Sexual Access
He offers her sex.
He bluntly asks the potential mate for sex.
He makes a pass at her and waits to see what happens.
He sleeps with the potential mate.
Suggest Easy Sexual Access
She acts sexy around potential mate.
She wears seductive clothes.
She makes a lot of eye contact with potential mate.
She kisses potential mate.
She sits in his lap at a party.
She wears loose-fitting clothes or goes without underwear.
Temporal Invasion
He changes his schedule so that he sees her more than present mate.
He attempts to be around her more than present mate.
He drops by to see her often.
He calls potential mate about business, then switches the topic.
He devotes a lot of time to potential mate.
Use Humor
She is funny.
She emphasizes her good nature through a sense of humor.
Wait Around
He waits around and is there when they break up.
a) Have you had any of this happen to you?
b) Would any of these strategies work on you?
c) Have you tried doing this to anyone? How did it work out?
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Originally Posted by Partiasn
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