I'm very systematizing. One friend of mine explains her emotional state to me, and asks for advice, because apparently I give good advice, but usually I just use logic; aggregating the pros and cons. I don't really empathize, if that makes sense. I don't think I can empathize in many of her situations. They're too abstract for me, and I usually just pick whichever option has the most pros vs the least cons.
Due to my systematizing nature, I really don't have a need for exchanges of emotions, with the exception for ones that are used to distance myself, if I'm feeling agitated or 'closed in', for example. I'm very internalized, and don't find having others empathizing with my situation much helpful or useful, unless they can add something to enhance(or dilute if negative) such emotions. Much of my emotions such as happiness, sadness, anger, and all the basics are more individual than communal. The emotions of others barely register with me, but if I do recognize them I put in an effort to empathize.
In the end I'm an extreme introvert. I don't like expressing my emotions, and for most people, I don't like hearing about their emotions, particularly if they're negative. I enjoy keeping my emotions within, so that I can filter out the more irrational 'moods' and 'feelings' from my conduct and behavior. The emotions I deem suitable I will cherish exclusively to myself, as usually I'm the only one who has them at the particular situations, whereas in other situations I have no emotional response, yet most other people do. So it's quite complex.
On the internet this is less evident because I'm more honest and my filter is far weaker.
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