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I met my current BF on Facebook, we were both on a Julius Evola admiration group and he added me.
I was in an unhappy relationship at the time, with a guy in his 40s who was an awesome guy as a person and a friend, but overall uninterested in love and commitment (he was a Buddhist who believed against any form of commitment to people or places).
The dude who added me on FB was, on the other hand, a decade younger than myself. I would have never thought this would be possible as in my life I was never attracted to younger men, considered them immature and uninteresting.
Nevertheless we became friends from Facebook, started chatting a lot, and then we started meeting and grew very fond of each other (I did not see him sexually at the time, but I admired him for his maturity and knowledge, which were remarkable for someone his age).
He expressed a love interest in me but I made it clear from the first encounter that I am in a relationship with another man. As we knew each other better, I confided the details of my relationship and he even offered me advice on how to handle it.
At some point we slipped and slept together, during a period where my regular partner and I had silently fallen out, even though we had not openly discussed the end of our relationship, but it was certainly implied by his disappearance.
The love interest of a much younger, very handsome and intelligent man flattered me. We dated for a short period of time during which my normal boyfriend was entirely absent and indifferent.
Then, at some point, my former boyfriend re-appeared in my life and asked for reunification.
I weighed things and decided that even though I was smitten with the young guy, the older guy, due to his age, and overall life circumstances, would be a better candidate for a long term relationship and potentially marriage, than the younger dude who was merely a student at the time.
Plus, I had been very in love with the older guy in the past, and had spent a year with him, so this relationship seemed like a better investment.
So I explained my decision to the younger guy and he entirely respected it. He never bothered me after we broke it off.
We spent three months apart, during which, my reunification with the older guy sucked. It very soon became apparent that he was no longer interested in me sexually, and that his only reason for reuniting was insecurity and the fear of growing old alone.
I also grew to miss my former lover more and more, and eventually came in contact with him, only to see how he is doing.
He confessed that he had been having a rough time coping with my absence and that he missed me as well.
So that was that - we met, we realized we had been in love the whole time, we are together eversince, for more than two years.
I dumped the other guy in 30 seconds over coffee and cookies, saying that it is obvious that our love interest has died and there is no point in beating a dead horse.
Me and the younger guy became an item and we are still very caring of each other, he has been extremely supportive and strong by my side and for that reason I cherish him, even though we both know that this relationship has no long term future.
Besides, our life plans are different (plans I do not want to reveal here) so we just try to make the best of our experience while it last, until the time comes that our ways will part
And that, is my soap opera.
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