Is sexual orientation fluid? Or fixed?

**Dandelion** · 07-08-2018, 11:48 PM

I am straight and I'll die straight, but it's fluid for some for sure.

**Archduke** · 07-08-2018, 11:50 PM

This is very complicated, but sexuality is definitely not fluid. If you became gay when you were 30, you definitely had that deep in you long before that..but because of society many people need time to realize who they are. Unfortunately such people most of the time are mentally not stable and are always confused between their past "normal" life and the current gay one. My ex boyfriend is just like that. He felt ready to be with men when he was 25-26. When we had honest conversations, he was saying how he always imagined to have family and children with a guy. When he was mad at me, the reason why he switched to men was because women were too complicated and with men he doesnt have problems..

And the people who were previously gay and later become straight, they just put a mask in order to feel "normal" in society. I have a neighbour in my hometown who is 100% gay and last time when I was home, he was outside with a baby and wife.

I personally knew that I am gay since very early age and accepted myself very easy. Tried to be with women several times and it doesnt feel natural for me. I can easily be with one, but I would definitely feel very unhappy.

**Dandelion** · 07-08-2018, 11:53 PM

Originally Posted by Archduke

This is very complicated, but sexuality is definitely not fluid. If you became gay when you were 30, you definitely had that deep in you long before that..but because of society many people need time to realize who they are. Unfortunately such people most of the time are mentally not stable and are always confused between their past "normal" life and the current gay one. My ex boyfriend is just like that. He felt ready to be with men when he was 25-26. When we had honest conversations, he was saying how he always imagined to have family and children with a guy. When he was mad at me, the reason why he switched to men was because women were too complicated and with men he doesnt have problems..

And the people who were previously gay and later become straight, they just put a mask in order to feel "normal" in society. I have a neighbour in my hometown who is 100% gay and last time when I was home, he was outside with a baby and wife.

I personally knew that I am gay since very early age and accepted myself very easy. Tried to be with women several times and it doesnt feel natural for me. I can easily be with one, but I would definitely feel very unhappy.

Probably. My reference is the ex-girlfriend of my lesbian cousin. She's the identical twin of a straight sister.