I have no success

[majevica]

Surely, you don't know what it is to suffer like I do! You don't know what it is to have a black father, to have wide eyes, not to be able to attain beauty and to be retarded! I suffer from horrible mental and physical pain because of all of that. I am paralysed.

Sounds really horrible, thank you for sharing your problems with us!

[Batavia]

My life is horrible. I have no success, nobody likes me and I can't do anything, I have no talent at all. I disappoint everybody. It is so hard, day after day, to continue to fill this body with life. I've had enough!

I suffer so much from anxiety. I am so afraid that those who happened to say something kind to me changed their mind. I am so afraid to arouse negative feelings and disgust. It makes me so nervous and sad and it makes my life a misery.

Even if it seems horrible, don't give up, you sure have a great family and you're not retarted.
Life is hard, but it's worth living.

Maybe you should visit a therapist, it´s not a shame many people do that...

[Incal]

Who here thinks I'm retarded?

You are not retarded but you have serious mental problems that make you act like if you were a 9 year old.

[Indager]

To be successful in life, you need a lot of work and a positive mindset. The more negative you think, the further you are from success. But the more positive you think, the closer you are to success. The less you work, the further you are from success.

But you also need: a good sleep, healthy diet, a lot of sport.

The lack of them causes depression and that's probably what you have.

You need to socialize more with real people (at school, at work, in classes, at sports clubs) avoiding places with fake people (clubs, people who smoke or consume alcohol and avoid wasteful, drugged and negative thinking people).

You need cleanliness in the room, clean clothes, to always be clean and a bright room. New clothes, well-groomed hair and relaxing baths. You need to go to the swimming pool and vacation in your favorite countries.

You need hobbies and you need a big salary.

You need a good relationship with your family and to eliminate fake friends while adding new friends so that you are not alone.

And let TheApricity group be just a hobby. A place where you don't spend a lot of time. But not a little, because you like it, so you stay here.

But if you stay, you must be aware of the disadvantages and advantages.

Benefits:
1. You know people with the same passions and hobbies as you
2. You learn something new

Disadvantages:
1. Although some people have the same passions and hobbies as you, they are toxic. Some will become your friends, but others are just people who sit on the computer and lived in a different environment than you (different country, different parents, different mentality) (also surrounded by toxic people in childhood, they became toxic, and pour out your frustrations on yourself)(But why do you care what they say?)
2. You can also accumulate bad information

It's normal to care about people's opinions. A critical advice that hurts you at the moment can make you realize that you are not in Paradise and that not everyone is standing at your feet, and applauding you being a goddess.

It is normal that there are people with other opinions.

It's normal to have worse moments, when a simple thing on TheApricity makes you sad.

However, it is normal to get out of these states. To realize that in life not everyone appreciates you. This is the key to success. When you have achieved this, you will know that you are successful.

On the other hand, there are also a lot of people who like and appreciate you a lot (both on TheApricity, but especially in real life).
And when you realized that there are people who like you, people who love you, you will find out that you are successful.

[Indager]

[calxpal]

I honestly wish you the best, I hope you find better in your life. I haven't interacted with you enough to have much of an opinion about you, but yeah I agree I think it can be hard at times to interact with certain people here and to avoid caring about what others say.

I honestly feel you because I have the same problem but for me It's reversed: I have trouble with people disliking me and being rude to me in real life even though I'm always the best person I can be to others, It's hard although people on the forum have been much nicer and more accepting to me than in real life. Although I have found ways to leave a better impression in recent years, things have been better. I sometimes wonder if I have some off-putting traits in real-life that are camouflaged online.

Not sure if my comment is helpful, but I just wanted to chime in .

[Laly]

You are not retarded but you have serious mental problems that make you act like if you were a 9 year old.

And you said that I did not deserve to have procreated! So, you think my daughter is a monstrosity just like me?

[Richard Alvarez]

I first thought this was another thread of Richmondbread when I saw the title...

[Laly]

Even if it seems horrible, don't give up, you sure have a great family and you're not retarted.
Life is hard, but it's worth living.

Maybe you should visit a therapist, it´s not a shame many people do that...

My dear, thank you so much for your gentleness! I am actually followed now by a Bulgarian psychiatrist, Dr. Svetla Velikova Dimitrova and she was highly recommended to me by my friend the baroness Eleonore de Sadeleer. She has studied in Russia and she is specialised in brain stimulation. She has written several scientific articles one can find here: https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Svetla-Velikova or there: https://loop.frontiersin.org/people/319549/overview. I had an electroencephalogram, with electrodes on my head and she said that my brain activity is very low. I wish she will be able to help me.

But I don't see any improvement in my situation, I am still the same.

[Laly]

To be successful in life, you need a lot of work and a positive mindset. The more negative you think, the further you are from success. But the more positive you think, the closer you are to success. The less you work, the further you are from success.

But you also need: a good sleep, healthy diet, a lot of sport.

The lack of them causes depression and that's probably what you have.

You need to socialize more with real people (at school, at work, in classes, at sports clubs) avoiding places with fake people (clubs, people who smoke or consume alcohol and avoid wasteful, drugged and negative thinking people).

You need cleanliness in the room, clean clothes, to always be clean and a bright room. New clothes, well-groomed hair and relaxing baths. You need to go to the swimming pool and vacation in your favorite countries.

You need hobbies and you need a big salary.

You need a good relationship with your family and to eliminate fake friends while adding new friends so that you are not alone.

And let TheApricity group be just a hobby. A place where you don't spend a lot of time. But not a little, because you like it, so you stay here.

But if you stay, you must be aware of the disadvantages and advantages.

Benefits:
1. You know people with the same passions and hobbies as you
2. You learn something new

Disadvantages:
1. Although some people have the same passions and hobbies as you, they are toxic. Some will become your friends, but others are just people who sit on the computer and lived in a different environment than you (different country, different parents, different mentality) (also surrounded by toxic people in childhood, they became toxic, and pour out your frustrations on yourself)(But why do you care what they say?)
2. You can also accumulate bad information

It's normal to care about people's opinions. A critical advice that hurts you at the moment can make you realize that you are not in Paradise and that not everyone is standing at your feet, and applauding you being a goddess.

It is normal that there are people with other opinions.

It's normal to have worse moments, when a simple thing on TheApricity makes you sad.

However, it is normal to get out of these states. To realize that in life not everyone appreciates you. This is the key to success. When you have achieved this, you will know that you are successful.

On the other hand, there are also a lot of people who like and appreciate you a lot (both on TheApricity, but especially in real life).
And when you realized that there are people who like you, people who love you, you will find out that you are successful.

Dear Indager, thank you very much for your very enlightening message. I’m trying to take stock of what you said.

I actually regularly have difficulties to sleep. I ruminate on my problems in my bed, I am very anxious. I also don’t do any sport, which is indeed not a good thing. But I have, I think, a healthy diet. I socialise quite a lot, I often have activities, such as receptions, etc. I don’t smoke, I don’t take any drug, I do not drink alcohol often and my husband neither.

I always have clean clothes; I like to buy new clothes. But I buy them, as well as books, compulsively, so it’s not really a good thing. But the problem is that I am really a messy person. My room is often untidy, I hate to clean, to put my home in order. It is one of the reasons why myself and my husband have separate bedrooms. My husband is the contrary of me, he is very organised. Fortunately, we have a Polish cleaning lady who comes twice a week. Also, unfortunately, I am not satisfied with my hair, I have never been able to groom it properly.

I have hobbies, like cinema, reading, visiting exhibitions, travelling. I have travelled quite a lot this year and it will continue, this month, then next month…

Unfortunately, I don’t have any salary. I do not have any money I’ve earn. I have only what my parents or my husband give me. I do not have any financial independence.

Unfortunately, I am quite irritable and people tire me easily. But there are a lot of people around me, and I’m always meeting new people.

You are right also concerning the Internet and TA. I shouldn’t spend too much time there. But I do, I can’t help myself. I’m not blossomed, I’m always frustrated, always looking for validation. And when someone says something kind to me, I am always that the next moment, he will change his mind and that I will arouse disgust, hostility, negative emotions. You are right that some people here are toxic. They are laughing at me. Not later than yesterday, a thread I opened was deleted and people displayed a lot of animosity against me, while all I want is love, tenderness, compassion and being beautiful. It's really hard.

Anyway, your message is full of benevolence and very comforting. I will try to improve some points. Thank you!