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For you it may be an old story. For others reading here not necessarily.
I wasn't crying (or complaining). I think relationships, marriages and procreation SHOULD take effort. There was a user who talked about "free sex" first, I replied to her, then you joined the conversation. I am just saying that it's debatable if "free sex" exists.
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Maybe it has something to do with "dominance" in ancient rome a big cock and potence was sign of "power" they even had statues of "phallus" (cock) which symbolises power. But I want only one woman, one marriage, and i dont want many women. If i could choose between having many one night stands and many short casual sex dates or one wife and a family. I would choose the family. I mean I dont have either and dont have a choice but if i did.
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mother nature didn't give us men billions of little swimmers for the one woman![]()
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It's actually a pretty loaded answer. Here's my take:
I think there is alot of guys who would prefer one true love over one night stands, at least initially. Generally speaking a woman will have much more options readily available than a man (unless they're in the small minority of very attractive men), men know this, so they know they are more easily/readily replaced, so thus that makes it harder for a man to commit if he feels his place in the relationship is insecure. Maybe for alot of women thinking they can be easily replaced by their partner is a form of a turn on sexually and emotionally for them, but for most men it's definitely an emotional turn off/makes a man not want to invest emotionally (commitment).
There's also the fact that alot of women are generally less honest/direct than men, imagine the emotional insecurity when you think that your partner can easily replace you AND maybe has already begun to replace you by talking to another guy, and is just hiding it from you, which alot of modern women do (monkey branching). At that point most guys are probably just going to primarily focus on sex so as to get their own gain before risking getting played for no gain. This is part of the fundamental problem with casual sex culture, back then if the norm is to not have sex before marriage, it's kind of a social contract since in a culture where sex is highly shamed before marriage it makes it harder for women to monkey branch, partially due to the shame factor and also because it's less socially acceptable for men themselves going around looking for women just for casual hookups, so less readily available partners, less chance of someone monkey-branching/cheating you and/or being replaced, thus more secure environment for emotional commitment.
I can already foresee the hypocritical replies of "men have no right to tell women how to sexually behave" ok, then likewise women have no right tell men who, when, and how much to emotionally invest/commit then either. Thus these modern societal problems are going to continue forever (or until society totally collapses due to a demolished family structure) if no one wants to make any form of mutual compromise.
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I see some truth to that in the sense that when men have that uncertain feeling of being replaced there seems to be part of the
maybe caveman ish nature that kicks in and thinks like "oh well let me get as many f-cks in this relationship as possible because it could end and at least I got my fill of sex out of it.
For me I didnt have that feeling with all or most relationships before I got married.
But when I was in my 20's and dated a couple of girls that were very attractive but also Vixen like in sense that they generally drew lot of attention from random men like when going to a nightclub or restaurant. With one of them we dated for 3 years and were really close but many times on and off I had that insecurity feeling that the relationship could end and I recall feeling like oh well at least Im f-cking the hell out of her whilst its lasting.
But yes also to your point that mentality of men finding women or rather (some women) perhaps ones we find very sexy or physically attractive , we have a general sense or underlying fear they may not be reliable long term or that they can be fickle hence this can then lead to seeing just clocking
up sexual encounters as valueable even if the relationship doesnt last at least there was those experiences.
Maybe many men wont admit to that but I suspect it can be something many men experience.
Women dont tend to have that outlook generally , not that women dont experience feeling horny or liking sex yes many women do and i know this from my personal experiences and conversations with women. But what I described is more a male way of thinking.
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High testosterone men can have really high sex drives its almost like one woman is just not enough...(at least for sex).otherwise one is usually more than enough LOL..
I recall reading a book about Mohamed Ali, he was married and loved his wife but at times he was banging these hot girls left right and centre as they were probably very available to him.
The writer of the book said something like he loved his wife but his testosterone sex drive was just too high he luved women and many were willing to luv him, so yeh its gonna happen.
There are a bunch of women always willing to f-ck guys who are famous or have status not to mention rich.
does that say women are / can be very fickle ?
BTW i was personal friends with a guitar player from a famous band these guys had been Rockstars in the 1970's.
I heard lots of stories from him about girls literally breaking down their hotel room doors to meet and sleep with the band members.
One of the perks of fame is Fame Pussy.
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Well...women that are turned on when they think they will be easily replaced, deserve to be replaced. That is a self-destructive way of thinking.
No man should commit to a women that does not make him feel secure in her and supported fully. I don't know are women less honest in general.
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