Can you guys share any clauses with me for a checklist to have a succesful date?

**Andromega123** · 02-11-2019, 08:10 PM

I was ducked up in the title about grammar but sorry.

Anyway, i am not good at those stuff but i was wondering if do you guys (or girls btw) have some kinda checklist for have a sucesful date which includes something like how to wear, tips for self care, how to get rid of concerns etc.
i mean if do you guys have any advice for a successful date, can you share?

**Morena** · 02-12-2019, 03:28 AM

I don't know. Do people even date anymore?

**Dna8** · 02-12-2019, 03:42 AM

Embrace the organic aspects of the date, in my inexpert opinion..

**luc2112** · 02-12-2019, 04:09 AM

What is the situation? Do you already know the person?

**Andromega123** · 02-12-2019, 05:41 AM

Originally Posted by OsricPearl

I don't know. Do people even date anymore?

I guess so, i mean i am total incel but i guess i will have a date in this week but i don't know what exactly to do.

Originally Posted by Dna8

Embrace the organic aspects of the date, in my inexpert opinion..

Actually i am not sure about meanings of the organic aspects of dating?

Originally Posted by luc2112

What is the situation? Do you already know the person?

Yeah i know, i have met her before but it's been so long since our last met.

**Dna8** · 02-12-2019, 05:48 AM

Nuances of speech or body language cannot undo someone during a date.. with such a line of thinking in place, allocate the greatest part of your cognition to the immediate present, at the expense of allocating mental functioning towards analyzing the interpersonal (for if nuances of speech & body language cannot ruin things, it's not requiring such attention..)

All just my humble take..

**frankhammer** · 02-12-2019, 06:34 AM

Originally Posted by Dna8

Nuances of speech or body language cannot undo someone during a date.. with such a line of thinking in place, allocate the greatest part of your cognition to the immediate present, at the expense of allocating mental functioning towards analyzing the interpersonal (for if nuances of speech & body language cannot ruin things, it's not requiring such attention..)

All just my humble take..

Why not just reply in Swahili...

**Dna8** · 02-12-2019, 06:35 AM

Originally Posted by frankhammer

Why not just reply in Swahili...

I don't speak the language, mate..

**Dna8** · 02-12-2019, 06:40 AM

You triggered me btw..

**Morena** · 02-12-2019, 01:33 PM

Well, the first thing you should do is stop thinking of yourself as an incel. If you think of yourself like that, then you'll inevitably think that this person is the only one you'll have a chance with! But that's not true.

Right away, you need to prepare mentally:
- Try to act as casual as you can. The girl has to think you've totally done this before.
- Don't give her too many compliments or for the sake of all that is holy, declare any feelings on a first date. Girls find that creepy.
- Don't bother with flowers on a first date or any gifts.
- Don't spend a whole lot of money or do anything too fancy on a first date
- Have a plan so that you know what to do and when to do it. Women like men who take charge and are confident.
Ask her what she wants to do, chances are she'll say, "I don't know..." or something like that. I did this too. It's a woman thing. That's when you propose your idea.

- Wear clothes that suit your figure and nice shoes.
- Bathe, wear deodorant, brush your teeth, groom your face (shave or trim your beard)
- Ask her casual questions about her day and what she does. Encourage her to talk. Women talk a lot so that will fill time.

If she:
- Spends all her time on her phone
- acts weird or entitled

ditch her.

Btw: where is this date? are you driving? are you meeting somewhere?"

I always thought a good first date was at a trendy cafe and/or walking along the bay (Miami) or park and chatting. But this was a long time ago. Movies are awful for dates. It's two hours of just sitting and staring. Half of the time, the movies are bad.