Why I can't have a boyfriend and why my elder brother catches me when I talk to boys?

[Thanas Django]

Enough! I have a right to riot!

I want to have a boyfriend but my mom and elder brother always catch and object against it! I talked with a boy 2 days ago and I would meet with him but my mother yelt at me. And my brother would kill me because of he sees it as a dishonour! I hate my family's that side! Why are they like that? They always think that I'm a little child while I'm NOT! My mom wants me to don't date another boy until the boy I'll mary. I told her dating to one person and marry him/her is lowness but she's continuing to be small-minded!

Because of them, I'll never date someone and like a kezban(in Turkey, we call the girls who are ugly and low as "kezban"), I'll live my first with my husband like my mother did. And I fuckin' hate it! I told my mother that it's so hard to find a boy which didn't date any girls before marriage. But she doesn't want to understand.

My mother wants me to go ahead her but I don't want to be like that. Also I was thinking that I'm too young for dating but I later learned that I'm not young at all.

Their behaviour is counter productive.

Humans naturally orient themselves to things they perceive as forbidden, and right now all you can think about is boyfriends which I believe is tragic.

[İrle]

Oh for fuck's sake. Stop carrying stuff like this to a forum like TA girl.

[Finnish Swede]

You are lucky you have the family support, look at the scando girl Finno-Swede, she has to be her own Mahram and earn a black belt in MMA because there is no man willing to protect her honor.

She has to protect it herself

LOL. I don't have a brother. If I would have a big brother, he would have probable faced ''hard times'' as growing up with me. LOL.

Skills to protect yourself are never useless.

''Her honor''? I hate then muslims uses ''honor'' ... like it would be only or separate issue. ''Protect her'' just like that is more than fine ... in all ways/forms!

And last ...without muslims here .... nobody actually would need to protect me. Not even me/myself.

[Mary]

Their behaviour is counter productive.

Humans naturally orient themselves to things they perceive as forbidden, and right now all you can think about is boyfriends which I believe is tragic.

1) Would it be more or less tragic if she ended up like this,





2) Women reach sexual maturity earlier than men, and if they don't get dick regularly they lose their minds.

[Moje ime]

Because men are queing up to marry women who go to college and don't use their pussies,

Yes they marry them. Couples that meet eachother during college and get married are best marriages since both are similar in level of education and life experiance and they are in best years for serious relationship and latter marriage.

[Bosniensis]

Yes they marry them. Couples that meet eachother during college and get married are best marriages since both are similar in level of education and life experiance and they are in best years for serious relationship and latter marriage.

Those are rare nowdays, people here marry in late 30s (at least in my country), probably cause of poverty etc... nobody can handle a family, flat with 400 euro

[Mary]

Yes they marry them. Couples that meet eachother during college and get married are best marriages since both are similar in level of education and life experiance and they are in best years for serious relationship and latter marriage.

1) Men don't want women who go to college.

2) When I went to college about ten years ago the ratio was something like 80-20 women to men.

[Mary]

Those are rare nowdays, people here marry in late 30s (at least in my country), probably cause of poverty etc... nobody can handle a family, flat with 400 euro

1) That's the Boomer narrative "you meet in college and you get married."

2) But those women are not marriage material, nobody wants them.

[Magnolia]

Once I saw this and was literally confused:


If Turkish women have no right to "have" more than 1 man... how is this even possible .

Girl you have to make a revolution, go to study abroad.
PS: if it helps my family was like that too when I was 15.

[Moje ime]

1) Men don't want women who go to college.

2) When I went to college about ten years ago the ratio was something like 80-20 women to men.

1 You don't know that kind of men. They avoid you.

2 Depends of college, men are majority in certain studies like eg electronic etc.