I haven't really attempted much to be honest. I really want to focus on other things right now. Although sometimes I worry a lack of experience(
in addition to my inherently poor social abilities) will make it much more difficult when I do decide it to be important. I don't think I am a person whom would want to have sex exclusively for pleasure(
no romantic emotion) though, I'm too practical I suppose, and really don't see it as any more exciting than other aspects of my life. Often even I think about it only for the practical purpose of reproduction. I don't know why, this is normal for me, but I am certain it isn't typical. I really don't think trying too hard will be the right approach though. If somebody likes me and I somehow place that I like them it should work out, if not, well... I guess I am perfectly happy otherwise. Maybe I just haven't met anybody I like yet though. Maybe I'm too picky? I don't know. Interpersonal relationships, empathy, and emotional awareness aren't things I excel at very well. My EQ is extremely low(
recently diagnosed with Asperger's/HFA.) So even if I found motivation I doubt I would do too well if I made an effort to try. Even then, it seems as if it would be forced. Only things I'm certain of are that I am certainly not asexual, I hope to have a family eventually, and believe I am capable of love, yet haven't experienced the phenomenon in this context, or in most contexts actually. I have been told this is "quite sad", but there is little I can do about it. My brain works how it works.
As for people who liked me, there was one girl who liked me last year - I didn't like her. We ended up going to prom together, but as friends only. I think after a while she gave up, for the most part I was oblivious to the fact she liked me, but her second cousin(and a close friend of mine) told me about it. My reaction was indifference, lol. Cold I guess, yet forcing things would be far too deceptive, and certainly would produce a complication in my life I can not handle nor do I want to. I am happy how I am now, although I realize it isn't a functionable state in the social species that we are, so gradually I am working on developing some better skills to recognize other people's hints to their and my own emotional state.
In a purely friendly or cordial relationship I find there to be no distinction in my ability to associate with men or women. All people, depending on their personality, tend to be equally perplexing to me. Gender doesn't matter much at all, except for which common interests I bring up in conversation I suppose. The only things that usually confuse me are the sub-cultures(
in which their identity revolves around the fact) involved with atypical sexual orientations. They are far worse than normal gender roles because I don't have the backlog of knowledge to work with. I assume that is normal for all people though.
Currently my romantic involvement would be
undefined on a mathematical scale of 1-10. In the future? Somewhere low I predict, I don't like to worry about it until it happens. Dwelling would be unproductive and unhealthy(mentally.) Until then I'll be content with other things.
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