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I decided to write I think a sequel to the first thread I wrote about Chechnya in this section...there I said, in a practical way, that in a realistic situation there should be no desire to separate from Russia.
The first thread was from an economic and political point of view, and now this is from the cultural and philosophical aspect.
So, I am a Chechen who has lived most of life outside the republic, and several years abroad in the West. I am very fortunate, and I would even say very protected, from a family who has money and who has raised children with religious and nationalistic values in addition to modern intellectual values (for example, both parents gave a lot of importance to doing well in school) I did live in Grozny during part of the first war, but really, I don't remember it very much. There was just a lot happening that I was too young to understand.
Anyways, with my upbringing, it is easy to romanticize the idea of an independent Ichkeria, of freedom, and so on.
So now, I live here again, for the first time (that is LIVE not just VISIT) since I was a child, and I notice something about the people that is disturbing and depressing. Many of you will just think of us as a barbaric and backward mountain people with an oppressive religion... in reality, it is not Islam and it is not our native culture. It is that Chechnya as part of Russia has a complex. Here they are tired of war, and want to continue in peace and strongly reject talk of separation. At the same time, they like to show off how much they are NOT Russian, and in my opinion, they do so in a wrong way.
With such things as general male aggression, non-consension bride stealing, complete Idol worship of Ramzan Kadyrov (I see his ugly face everywhere. On buildings. At work. On random men's t-shirts even!) and enforcing such petty laws about women and clothes and such that are insignificant part of either Islam or Vainakh custom...and to people who disagree with this, they say, this is the Chechen way, this is our law, and if you do not like it, you are not a Chechen you are a Russian.
The truth is, this idiotic practice did not have its prevalance so much before the wars! Here there is such betrayal on a daily basis of friends and family in the name of loyalty to Kadyrov. In the old Vainakh custom, family is of the most importance... AND one would NEVER submit to someone all-powerful with non-questioning authority like they do now, unless it is God. And the worst is, that one of the most important customs is being lost, of respect for your elders and respect for Mothers.
Especially in the instances of bride-stealing, when it is AGAINST the will of the bride and her family. In the old days, a Chechen man would absolutely never disrespect the elders of the family like that. Now, it happens often, just out of aggression.
All this to show off in an ostentatious way how you are "not Russian", when at the same time, there are people who actually forget who they are, in that they have lost some things. Some people for example are not literate in their own language, they do not develop themselves intellectually, they are dependent on the government (and therefore the Russian Federation government) for all reconstruction and economic purposes, they forget their family history, they forget their people's history except in the context of being angry with Russia. This I think is the most depressing thing here, about the change in mentality. And this has all happened in less than twenty years.
Do I think it would all be different if we were given independence? That is, twenty years ago our independence, legitimate? That we would have our own society and our own culture retained without this superficiality and this complex, and be able to modernize and economically develop in our own unique way? I don't know and it is a pointless thing to think about because now that is absolutely impossible. The Chechen Republic is a dead end. There is no sign of anything getting better. Russians hate us for the minority who are associated with terrorism, and for the majority associated with Putin's policy of "feeding the Caucasus". And the Chechen people have turned into brainwashed and empty-minded, aggressive people with no reason and no logic.
For this year, I am facing a choice to either stay here and get married, or return to my studies and then have the problem of returning here too old and not married. I wanted to return to live in Chechnya because I have so much love and patriotism (in the Old Ichkerian way) and I wanted to raise a family with the same values... now I can say I have completely lost all idealism and hope and I am getting out of here. I wish my family will do the same, and to marry someone who feels the same way.
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