Any tips to start a relationship with anyone?

[Beowulf]

Some of your friends must have girlfriends. Ask them do they have some pretty friend for you
I guess you can write to some girl on instagram, you have nothing to lose.
You are making it difficult for yourself by not going out. You can't get girl siting in your house whole day.

I don't have Instagram anymore, i didn't used to much. But i have tried to do that already, but It didn't worked i ended up being ignored.

[Incal]

I don't know if it will be used in your country, but in Spain there is a saying that says: "Dónde tengas la olla, no metas la polla."

Here we say: "Don't shit where you eat" same as the gringos but in the end everybody does lol and it's actually expected: you spend most of your adult life with the people you work with. I know many couples who met at work (or studying) and are still together, sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't.

I don't recommend that. I've never been involved with a co-worker or a classmate. It would be disruptive. I heard workplace romances are common but I frown on that.

Well it depends on the country and culture: in the US everything has become traumatizing while in Spain there's still normal people I think.

[tropicalslavic]

Well it depends on the country and culture: in the US everything has become traumatizing while in Spain there's still normal people I think.

It's not even just that. It's a valid concern. What if the relationship has a very sour end and you're stuck around that person for a long time? It's happened to me before, although I switched shifts lmao.

[Incal]

It's not even just that. It's a valid concern. What if the relationship has a very sour end and you're stuck around that person for a long time? It's happened to me before, although I switched shifts lmao.

Well it depends if you are an intense person, I'm not. I had quite a few flings at the office and I'm on good terms with all of them. I think it's key that the man won't be dramatic (cause the woman will always be), if the 2 parts are dramatic then yeah, things will go south.

[Lioncourt]

From what I read, you are quite similar to myself, so you can try to do what I did - find a girl from abroad. You can directly travel to another country or first meet her on the internet.

[tropicalslavic]

Well it depends if you are an intense person, I'm not. I had quite a few flings at the office and I'm on good terms with all of them. I think it's key that the man won't be dramatic (cause the woman will always be), if the 2 parts are dramatic then yeah, things will go south.

With all due respect, there is a little bit of projection in what you're saying. A lot of people go for romance and not flings in those situations, which obviously implies far more serious emotional involvement. I think if two people are just in it for sex and both have an understanding of it, it's probably not going to get weird. And there are many creepy men who cannot take the hint and/or cannot take rejection. I had one find out where my new job was after I quit the one he met me at. When I really fully rejected him in a way that he could not pretend he didn't understand, he video called me to show himself cutting his stomach. Very atypical situation but you never know what kind of people you work around until you get to know them outside of work. Lol

I think that between two mentally stable people, a workplace relationship can be an okay idea, but you really never know until you're already past the point of no return, which is the problem.

[Incal]

With all due respect, there is a little bit of projection in what you're saying. A lot of people go for romance and not flings in those situations, which obviously implies far more serious emotional involvement.

As I mentioned on my first reply to gixajo, there are people who go for flings and people who go for romance: on both cases it works sometimes and some others it doesn't (as almost anything else in life).

And there are many creepy men who cannot take the hint and/or cannot take rejection. I had one find out where my new job was after I quit the one he met me at. When I really fully rejected him in a way that he could not pretend he didn't understand, he video called me to show himself cutting his stomach. Very atypical situation but you never know what kind of people you work around until you get to know them outside of work. Lol

On my reply to Elizabeth, I already mentioned the whole world is not the USA. What you just told would never happen here and I doubt it happens in Spain either. There's also a gender gap on this kind of things: I think it's better if guys advice another guy on these matters as well as it's better that ladies advice other ladies. If Beowulf was a girl I'd probably warn "her" about meeting or dating a morroccan but since he's a dude there's nothing to fear about in Spain.

[tropicalslavic]

I think it's better if guys advice another guy on these matters as well as it's better that ladies advice other ladies.

This is often true! My best advice to him would be relating to coming out of your shell after a period of depression. I can't really relate to how men experience romance and courting, I can only project what I think onto it.

[Incal]

This is often true! My best advice to him would be relating to coming out of your shell after a period of depression. I can't really relate to how men experience romance and courting, I can only project what I think onto it.

I also think there are more similarities on dating among Spain and Latin America than with the US or UK for example.

[Beowulf]

Thanks for the tips everyone! Y'all are lovely people!